Nail biting and nail picking?
Hello Doctor: I have three children at home, and my second daughter is in the second grade of elementary school this year.
She has been raised by her grandmother since she was little, and every week when she comes back, she cries very hard.
She started school in kindergarten, but I don't know where to begin.
My younger sister has a habit of biting her nails, and now she frequently bites her nails, plays with her hands, and picks at her nails.
It feels like her nails are not growing anymore.
Recently, she goes to bed at 9 PM, but by 11 PM, she comes out crying and can't fall asleep.
She often complains about feeling unbalanced and keeps mumbling to herself.
I would like to ask the doctor how we can assist our child.
Thank you!
Niming, 40~49 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/09/23
Dr. Song Chengxian reply Psychiatry
Hello, everyone: Nail biting, picking at nails, or digging at the skin around the fingers in children is often a sign of anxiety.
Your older child not only bites their nails but also experiences nighttime crying and difficulty sleeping, which clearly indicates some distress or discomfort.
It would be helpful to understand the source of the child's distress and provide assistance.
Ask the child if they are facing difficulties in learning, peer interactions, or relationships with teachers.
Additionally, check if there are any physical discomforts.
Try not to overly focus on or criticize the nail-biting behavior.
If the situation does not improve, please take your child to a pediatric psychologist or child psychiatrist for professional intervention and support.
Reply Date: 2016/09/23
More Info
Helping a child overcome nail-biting and anxiety issues can be a multifaceted approach that involves understanding the underlying causes of their behavior, providing emotional support, and implementing practical strategies to reduce anxiety and promote healthier habits.
Understanding the Behavior
Nail-biting, also known as onychophagia, is a common habit among children and can often be linked to anxiety, stress, or boredom. In your case, it seems that your daughter has developed this habit, possibly as a response to the emotional turmoil she experiences when separated from her grandmother or during stressful situations. The crying and difficulty sleeping further indicate that she may be struggling with anxiety, which can manifest in various ways, including nail-biting.
Emotional Support
1. Open Communication: Encourage your daughter to express her feelings. Create a safe space where she feels comfortable sharing her thoughts and emotions. Ask her about her worries and listen actively without judgment. This can help her feel understood and supported.
2. Validate Her Feelings: Let her know that it’s okay to feel anxious or upset. Validating her feelings can help her understand that she is not alone in her experiences and that it’s normal to have such emotions.
3. Reassurance: Provide reassurance that she is safe and loved. Sometimes, children need to hear that they are not alone and that their feelings are valid. This can help reduce anxiety and promote a sense of security.
Practical Strategies
1. Identify Triggers: Pay attention to when she bites her nails. Is it during specific situations, such as when she is anxious or bored? Identifying triggers can help you address the root cause of her anxiety.
2. Introduce Alternatives: Encourage her to engage in alternative activities when she feels the urge to bite her nails. This could include squeezing a stress ball, fidgeting with a toy, or engaging in a creative activity like drawing or crafting. These alternatives can help redirect her focus and reduce anxiety.
3. Establish a Routine: A consistent daily routine can provide a sense of stability and predictability, which can be comforting for anxious children. Ensure that she has a calming bedtime routine to help her wind down before sleep.
4. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Teach her simple mindfulness exercises or relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing or visualization. These practices can help her manage anxiety and promote a sense of calm.
5. Limit Screen Time: Excessive screen time, especially before bed, can contribute to anxiety and sleep disturbances. Encourage her to engage in calming activities, such as reading or listening to soothing music, instead.
6. Positive Reinforcement: Celebrate small victories when she refrains from biting her nails. Positive reinforcement can motivate her to continue making progress.
Seeking Professional Help
If her anxiety and nail-biting persist despite your efforts, it may be beneficial to seek professional help. A child psychologist or counselor can provide specialized support and strategies tailored to her needs. They can also help her develop coping mechanisms to manage anxiety effectively.
Conclusion
Helping your daughter overcome nail-biting and anxiety requires patience, understanding, and consistent support. By fostering open communication, providing emotional reassurance, and implementing practical strategies, you can help her navigate her feelings and develop healthier coping mechanisms. Remember, it’s essential to approach this process with empathy and encouragement, allowing her to feel safe and supported as she works through her anxiety. If needed, don’t hesitate to seek professional assistance to ensure she receives the help she deserves.
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