How to reduce the frequency of masturbation?
Hello Doctor: I first masturbated when I was about eighteen years old.
Since my student days until now, I have been unable to control myself from masturbating.
I now masturbate about once every few months, and each time afterward, I feel very sad.
Could you please advise me on how to stop masturbating? I am getting older and am not married.
Every time I think about masturbating, I think about wanting to get married.
I am really troubled by this.
How can I stop masturbating? Thank you.
Niming, 40~49 year old female. Ask Date: 2017/02/06
Dr. Du Shixi reply Urology
Hello: If masturbation has been a long-term habit, it may be difficult to completely stop.
However, you can redirect your attention through exercise or developing hobbies.
You can choose activities based on your preferences, as engaging in more active pursuits is likely to reduce the frequency of masturbation.
(Masturbating once every few months is not excessive, so try not to put too much pressure on yourself.) Thank you for your inquiry.
Reply Date: 2017/02/06
More Info
Masturbation is a common behavior among young adults, and it can be a source of confusion and concern for many. It's important to understand that masturbation is a normal part of human sexuality and can have both physical and psychological effects. However, if you feel that your frequency of masturbation is excessive or is causing you distress, there are several strategies you can consider to help reduce the frequency.
1. Understand Your Triggers: The first step in reducing masturbation frequency is to identify what triggers the urge. This could be boredom, stress, anxiety, or specific situations that lead to the desire to masturbate. Keeping a journal to track when and why you feel the urge can help you understand your patterns and develop strategies to cope with them.
2. Find Alternative Activities: Engaging in other activities can help distract you from the urge to masturbate. Consider taking up new hobbies, exercising, or spending time with friends. Physical activity, in particular, can help reduce stress and improve your mood, which may decrease the desire to masturbate.
3. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Techniques such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or yoga can help you manage anxiety and stress, which may be contributing to your urges. Mindfulness can also help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings, allowing you to respond to them in a healthier way.
4. Set Goals: Setting specific, achievable goals can help you focus on reducing your masturbation frequency. For example, you might aim to reduce the frequency gradually over time. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small, to keep yourself motivated.
5. Limit Access to Stimulating Material: If you find that certain materials (like pornography) trigger your urges, consider limiting your access to them. This might involve using website blockers or finding ways to avoid situations where you might encounter such material.
6. Seek Support: If you find it difficult to manage on your own, consider talking to a mental health professional. They can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific situation. Therapy can help address underlying issues such as anxiety or depression that may be contributing to your behavior.
7. Educate Yourself: Sometimes, understanding more about sexuality and masturbation can help alleviate feelings of guilt or shame. There are many resources available that discuss sexual health in a factual and non-judgmental way.
8. Consider Your Values: Reflect on your personal values and beliefs regarding sexuality. Understanding how your behavior aligns or conflicts with your values can provide insight into your feelings and motivations.
9. Be Patient with Yourself: Change takes time, and it's important to be patient with yourself as you work to reduce your masturbation frequency. It's normal to have setbacks, but what's important is to keep trying and not to be too hard on yourself.
In conclusion, while masturbation is a normal behavior, if it is causing you distress or interfering with your daily life, it may be beneficial to explore strategies to reduce its frequency. By understanding your triggers, finding alternative activities, and seeking support when needed, you can work towards a healthier relationship with your sexuality. Remember, it's okay to seek help, and you're not alone in this experience.
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