Inability to engage in normal sexual intercourse?
Hello doctor, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year.
He is my first partner, and our sexual activity has always been normal; he uses condoms and I take oral contraceptives.
Recently, I have been under a lot of stress and have developed a urinary tract infection and a yeast infection.
I went to a gynecologist for a check-up and treatment, and after a period of abstaining from sexual activity, I felt some improvement in my symptoms.
However, when I attempted to have intercourse again, it felt like I was a virgin; once the penis entered, I experienced severe pain, almost like a tearing sensation.
I had never felt pain during intercourse before, but since that gynecological appointment, I have been unable to engage in sexual activity.
I wonder if the pain could be due to the gynecologist performing a transvaginal ultrasound without informing me beforehand, which might have caused psychological distress, or if it is because my urinary tract infection and yeast infection have not fully resolved, leading to painful intercourse.
Please help me understand, thank you, doctor.
Xiao Xiong, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2017/10/21
Dr. Zhang Kunmin reply Obstetrics and Gynecology
Hello, the situation you described suggests that you should have a physician evaluate whether the inflammation has been properly treated before assessing the underlying cause.
Thank you! Wishing you peace and health.
Dr.
Chang
Reply Date: 2017/10/21
More Info
Painful intercourse, also known as dyspareunia, can be a distressing experience for many women and can arise from a variety of physical and psychological factors. In your case, it seems that several elements may be contributing to your discomfort during sexual activity.
Firstly, it’s important to consider the physical aspects. You mentioned experiencing a urinary tract infection (UTI) and a yeast infection, both of which can lead to inflammation and sensitivity in the vaginal area. UTIs can cause discomfort and a burning sensation, which may make sexual intercourse painful. Similarly, a yeast infection can lead to irritation and swelling of the vaginal tissues, making penetration uncomfortable or even painful. If these infections have not fully resolved, they could certainly be contributing to your current experience of pain during sex.
Additionally, the stress you mentioned can also play a significant role in sexual function. Stress and anxiety can lead to muscle tension, particularly in the pelvic region, which can make penetration painful. This is often referred to as vaginismus, where involuntary muscle contractions occur in response to the anticipation of pain during intercourse. If you are feeling anxious or stressed about the pain you are experiencing, this could create a cycle where the fear of pain leads to more tension and discomfort.
Another factor to consider is the recent gynecological examination you underwent. While medical examinations are necessary for diagnosing and treating conditions, they can sometimes lead to temporary discomfort or anxiety about future sexual activity. If the examination was particularly uncomfortable, it might have created a psychological barrier that affects your ability to relax during intercourse. It’s essential to communicate with your healthcare provider about any discomfort you experience during examinations, as they can often adjust their techniques to minimize discomfort.
To address your situation, here are several recommendations:
1. Follow-Up with Your Healthcare Provider: Since you have a history of infections, it’s crucial to ensure that both the UTI and yeast infection have been adequately treated. If you continue to experience symptoms, a follow-up appointment may be necessary to reassess your condition.
2. Use Lubrication: Even if you have previously not needed lubrication, using a water-based lubricant can help reduce friction and discomfort during intercourse. This can be particularly helpful if you are experiencing dryness due to stress or hormonal changes.
3. Take Your Time: Engaging in extended foreplay can help increase arousal and relaxation, making penetration more comfortable. It’s essential to ensure that both you and your partner are fully aroused before attempting intercourse.
4. Communicate with Your Partner: Open communication with your partner about what feels comfortable and what does not is vital. Let them know about your discomfort, and work together to find positions and techniques that are more comfortable for you.
5. Consider Counseling: If psychological factors such as anxiety or stress are contributing to your pain, speaking with a therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual health may be beneficial. They can help you develop coping strategies and address any underlying issues.
6. Gradual Desensitization: If the pain persists, consider gradually reintroducing penetration with the help of a healthcare provider or a sex therapist. This can help you become more comfortable and reduce anxiety associated with intercourse.
In conclusion, painful intercourse can stem from a combination of physical and psychological factors. It’s essential to address any underlying medical conditions, communicate openly with your partner, and consider seeking professional help if necessary. Remember, you are not alone in this experience, and there are effective solutions available to help you regain comfort and enjoyment in your sexual relationships.
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