Navigating Family Conflicts and Mental Health Challenges

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I have always been busy with my career development and have a habit of engaging in outdoor sports.
Let me clarify that my following statements are not fictional and should not be distorted.
I just returned from abroad, and since both my mother and I have loud voices, we often speak loudly to each other, especially considering our previous rural living environment and our professions that require strong vocal projection.
I tend to speak directly and use many metaphors, which often leads to my mother becoming angry when I point out her mistakes.
A couple of years ago, during a disagreement on the balcony, we were speaking too loudly, and the police ended up coming.
Without any consideration, they forcibly admitted me to the hospital for over two months.
During that time, I was actively looking for a job, but this situation has made it very difficult for me to explain the so-called gap in my resume.
When I was taken in, the hospital forced me to sign a document stating that I had a mental disorder, or else they would administer medication against my will.
However, I did not experience any hallucinations or delusions as they claimed.
During my involuntary hospitalization, I even received legal documents stating that a neighbor accused me of attempting suicide and harming others, when in fact, I was just outside smoking.
It is truly absurd.
My parents view my lifestyle habits as a sign of being unable to take care of myself.
My numerous metaphors or comments on news seem to be distorted by others.
Because I have a habit of exercising, I do not mix dirty clothes with clean ones, yet my parents often intrude into my room without asking and tidy up, only to later complain about the mess, even though I clean my room once a week.
I wrote a letter explaining that I often go to the library at 9 AM and exercise in the evening, so how could I have the energy to harm others or myself? It was merely my loud speaking.
I feel very wronged; I am not young anymore, and I have no desire to harm them; they are not that important to me.
I am only concerned about finding a job, and I see them as quite helpless.
In the end, I was still forcibly injected with a multitude of medications, despite being innocent, which has disrupted my female hormone production.
As a woman, the medications caused me to miss my period for a year, and last month, the doctor advised me to see a gynecologist to obtain more medication to induce menstruation.
I truly do not have issues with irritability or self-harm; now, I even feel scared when I hear an ambulance, as if I am being treated unjustly for such a long time.
During my hospitalization, the nurses did not allow me to exercise or move around, and when I borrowed a badminton racket to play with other patients, some people nearby were displeased with my activity.
I feel very uncomfortable and wronged by their actions; the hospital does not keep its word and seems to want to keep me as a long-term patient.
I understand that this is how hospitals make money, as I graduated in business.
My eating habits are normal, but due to the doctors' inappropriate use of medication, I often feel dazed and have gained weight.
I am eager to find a simple job because my parents criticize me for everything, even when I eat.
They disapprove of me using a small plate and dropping crumbs on the table, even though I always clean up after myself and often help them with washing dishes and laundry.
I also have an older brother who does not work but is not criticized or nitpicked.
I am very afraid that the hospital will find strange reasons to detain me again.
Yesterday, I accidentally brought up an issue with my mother, and she yelled at me, which frightened me; she has never been subjected to such inexplicable treatment.
This morning, I heard neighbors say they called the police yesterday, but the police did not come.
However, I did not yell like that, so why am I being troubled? Is there any organization that can assist me in proving my innocence, re-evaluating my diagnosis, or clearing my record? The large companies I want to work for require a medical history and do not accept those with mental illness.
I am not ill, and the hospital, in pursuit of profit, is unlikely to let me go.
I feel that my future has been ruined by my family.

Lurén Jiǎ, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2018/01/14

Dr. Xiao Minghong reply Psychiatry

Dear Miss A,
I am sorry to hear about the many painful experiences you have encountered, and I understand that the difficulties you face are multifaceted.
Based on the information provided, I can offer the following responses:
1.
Communication Issues with Family: It seems that you and your family have differing perspectives and lifestyles, and there appears to be inconsistency in how your family treats you compared to your brother.
This is a common issue in many families.
I suggest trying to communicate with your family again to see if there is room for compromise.
Alternatively, seeking professional assistance from a psychiatrist or a counseling center may be beneficial, as family dynamics can often be complex, and public platforms may not be the best place for extensive self-disclosure.
2.
Side Effects of Medication: Some medications may cause irregular menstrual cycles as a side effect, but they often have cognitive-enhancing effects.
If you have concerns about your medication, I recommend discussing them further with your attending physician at the hospital.
3.
Regarding the hospital's assessment of your potential schizophrenia, I apologize for not being able to provide a diagnosis without having seen you.
If you suspect that the original hospital or physician may have ulterior motives, I suggest seeking a second opinion from another physician you trust.
I wish you all the best and hope you find success in your job search!
Sincerely,
Dr.
Hsiang Ming-Hong

Reply Date: 2018/01/14

More Info

Navigating family conflicts and mental health challenges can be incredibly complex and emotionally taxing. It sounds like you are experiencing a significant amount of distress due to your family dynamics, particularly with your mother, and the repercussions of a past hospitalization that you feel was unjustified. Here are some thoughts and recommendations based on your situation.

Firstly, it’s important to acknowledge the emotional toll that family conflicts can take on your mental health. The loud arguments and misunderstandings with your mother, especially when they escalate to the point of police involvement, can create a toxic environment that is difficult to navigate. It’s understandable that you feel frustrated and misunderstood, especially when your intentions and actions are misinterpreted. Communication styles can vary greatly between individuals, and it seems that your directness may clash with your mother’s sensitivity, leading to heightened tensions.

The experience of being forcibly hospitalized and labeled with a mental health condition can be traumatic, especially if you feel that the diagnosis does not accurately reflect your experiences. It’s crucial to seek clarity regarding your mental health status. If you believe that the diagnosis of a mental disorder was made without proper justification, consider seeking a second opinion from a different mental health professional. A thorough evaluation can help you understand your mental health better and provide you with the necessary documentation to address any concerns regarding your medical history.

In terms of managing your current family dynamics, it may be beneficial to establish boundaries. This could involve setting limits on how you engage in conversations with your mother, especially when discussions become heated. You might consider using “I” statements to express your feelings without placing blame, such as “I feel overwhelmed when our conversations become loud and heated.” This approach can sometimes help reduce defensiveness and promote more constructive dialogue.

Additionally, it may be helpful to engage in self-care practices that can support your mental well-being. Regular physical activity, such as your outdoor sports routine, can be a great outlet for stress relief. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep-breathing exercises, can also help you manage anxiety and improve your emotional regulation.

If you find that your family environment continues to be a source of distress, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who specializes in family dynamics. They can provide you with tools to cope with the challenges you face at home and help you develop strategies for improving communication with your family members.

Regarding your concerns about employment and the stigma associated with mental health diagnoses, it’s important to remember that many companies are becoming more aware of mental health issues and are working to reduce stigma. If you feel comfortable, you might consider discussing your situation with potential employers in a way that emphasizes your strengths and qualifications rather than focusing on your past experiences.
Lastly, if you feel that your safety is at risk or if you are being treated unfairly by medical professionals, it may be worth reaching out to advocacy groups that specialize in mental health rights. They can provide guidance on how to navigate the healthcare system and advocate for yourself effectively.

In summary, navigating family conflicts and mental health challenges requires a multifaceted approach. By seeking professional support, establishing boundaries, and engaging in self-care, you can work towards improving your situation. Remember that you are not alone in this journey, and there are resources available to help you find clarity and peace.

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