How to Manage Excessive Sexual Desire in Women: Seeking Solutions

How can women reduce sexual desire? I feel embarrassed?

Since childhood, I have often experienced an inexplicable desire to engage in sexual relations for one to two weeks each month, sometimes even longer.
It is difficult for me to concentrate on tasks, and I feel a heat and restlessness in my lower abdomen.
This desire must be fulfilled with another person; handling it myself does not help.
It has started to affect my daily life, as I often find it hard to focus during work meetings due to these thoughts.
I have engaged in risky behaviors because of this, and I fear that one day I might accidentally become pregnant or contract a disease.
I have been very cautious and feel embarrassed, wanting to restrain myself but finding it impossible to do so completely.
I have heard that antidepressants can reduce libido, but when I took them for a year five years ago, they did not help; in fact, I found it even harder to suppress my urges.
I have sought help, but often encounter people who take advantage of me, treating me as an outlet for their desires, or I am perceived as reckless and indiscreet.
I have even been a victim of sexual assault.
I have a boyfriend, but I do not want our dates to only revolve around hotel visits, and I sometimes get angry when he is not as interested as I am.
I sincerely hope that one day I can be free from the influence of sexual desire.

Doctor, are there any medications available that can temporarily reduce sexual desire? Are there specific diets or foods that can help decrease libido? Which medical specialty should I consult? I feel very embarrassed and distressed, and I have no choice but to ask here.
Thank you!

Xiao Kunao, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2018/12/28

Dr. Zhang Kunmin reply Obstetrics and Gynecology

Hello, based on your description, I recommend that you consult with a mental health counselor in the field of psychosomatic medicine.
They can provide various methods for your consideration.
Thank you! Wishing you peace and health, Dr.
Chang.

Reply Date: 2018/12/28

More Info

Managing excessive sexual desire, particularly when it disrupts daily life, can be a challenging experience for many individuals. It is essential to approach this issue with understanding and a multi-faceted strategy that includes medical, psychological, and lifestyle interventions.

Firstly, it is important to recognize that sexual desire varies significantly among individuals and can be influenced by numerous factors, including hormonal fluctuations, psychological states, and social environments. In women, hormonal changes during the menstrual cycle can lead to increased sexual desire, particularly during ovulation. However, when this desire becomes overwhelming and interferes with daily activities, it may be beneficial to seek professional help.

Medical Consultation:
The first step in managing excessive sexual desire is to consult with a healthcare professional, preferably a psychiatrist or a gynecologist. They can conduct a thorough evaluation to rule out any underlying medical conditions or hormonal imbalances that may be contributing to your symptoms. For instance, conditions such as polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) can lead to hormonal imbalances that may increase libido.

Medication:
While you mentioned that antidepressants did not help in the past, there are other medications that may be considered. Some medications, such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), can help reduce sexual desire as a side effect. However, it is crucial to discuss this with a healthcare provider, as they can tailor a treatment plan based on your specific needs and medical history. Additionally, medications like hormonal contraceptives can sometimes help regulate hormonal fluctuations that may contribute to heightened sexual desire.

Psychotherapy:
Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be particularly effective in addressing compulsive sexual behaviors and the underlying thoughts and feelings associated with them. A trained therapist can help you develop coping strategies, understand triggers, and work through any emotional issues related to your sexual desires. Therapy can also provide a safe space to discuss feelings of shame or embarrassment, which can be common in individuals experiencing excessive sexual desire.

Lifestyle Modifications:
Incorporating lifestyle changes can also play a significant role in managing sexual desire. Regular physical activity can help reduce stress and improve mood, which may, in turn, help regulate sexual urges. Mindfulness practices, such as meditation and yoga, can also be beneficial in promoting self-awareness and emotional regulation.

Dietary changes may also contribute to managing sexual desire. While there is no specific food that can universally reduce libido, a balanced diet rich in whole foods, fruits, vegetables, and lean proteins can support overall hormonal balance and well-being. Some individuals find that reducing caffeine and sugar intake can help stabilize mood and reduce anxiety, which may indirectly affect sexual desire.

Support Groups:
Joining a support group for individuals experiencing similar issues can provide a sense of community and understanding. Sharing experiences and coping strategies with others can be empowering and help reduce feelings of isolation.

Conclusion:
It is essential to approach the management of excessive sexual desire holistically, considering medical, psychological, and lifestyle factors. Seeking professional help is a crucial step in understanding and addressing your concerns. Remember, you are not alone in this experience, and there are effective strategies and treatments available to help you regain control over your sexual desires and improve your overall quality of life.

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