Overcoming Emotional Struggles: A Journey Through Mental Health Challenges

Q: Overcoming Emotional Struggles: A Journey Through Mental Health Challenges

Hello Amin： Although work is tough, you still hold your position and dedicate yourself to your family. <br>You should also take a moment to acknowledge your own efforts. <br>Falling ill is not something you desire, but I still recommend being patient and facing it bravely. <br>Co

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Hello, Doctor: This is Ah Ming, who consulted you last time.
Do you remember me? I have encountered some difficulties again!
1.
Although I don’t want to curse my enemies, sometimes my emotions get the best of me, and I can't control it! Similarly, I sometimes forget to take my medication, and other times I fall asleep due to exhaustion from work and miss my nighttime doses.
Even when I do take my medication, I still find myself cursing, though less frequently.
It seems I can't control my emotions and feelings; I deeply resent their behavior! I really don’t want to see their faces.
I want to move out, but I only earn $23,100 a month.
After deducting expenses for food and rent, I find it very tight financially, especially since I also have to pay for life insurance every year.
Additionally, my father may need hospitalization due to cellulitis, which adds to my distress! My brother and I both have jobs, and when my father was hospitalized recently, we felt helpless! If we hire a caregiver, my father would rather be discharged; my brother and I know his temperament all too well! My enemies have been tormenting me for a long time, and I find myself cursing them.
They have told our neighbors about my situation.
It seems that the neighbors, seeing that they are wealthy and influential, mostly side with them and accuse me of being crazy...
How can they be blameless? I know that fighting against them is like hitting a stone with an egg! With the possibility of my father needing hospitalization, I either have to quit my job or find a part-time job.
Moreover, I am exhausted every day, and my boss constantly assigns more tasks! There’s always more work to do, and it never ends! After working so hard and seriously, I only earn $23,100, not even accounting for labor and health insurance! It feels unworthy! I want to find another way, but I’m not looking for an easy way out; I still have to work.
2.
I don’t know if it’s due to aging, a mental health issue, or the change of seasons into autumn, but I often forget things lately! Even though my psychiatrist has prescribed me medication, it hasn’t helped! Sometimes I forget to take things at work and find myself running back and forth.
Other times, I lose track of where my money goes.
If I have receipts, it’s easier to resolve.
Sometimes I pay for breakfast but forget to take the food...
it’s a series of incidents.
3.
I have been single for a very long time and really want to find a romantic partner.
Although I am not a virgin, I am the type who treats women well, yet I just don’t have the opportunity! No woman seems to be interested in me.
I also hope my brother can find a partner and get married.
Unfortunately, it may be because of my past mistakes and immaturity that I owe a debt of gratitude, which is why my brother and I have not found anyone.
Even if I remain single, that’s fine; I just hope my brother can start a family so that we won’t disappoint our deceased mother! With my meager salary and mental health issues, I feel unqualified to pursue a relationship.
How can I resolve these difficult problems? Thank you very much.

A-Ming, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2019/10/10

Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry

Hello Amin: Although work is tough, you still hold your position and dedicate yourself to your family.
You should also take a moment to acknowledge your own efforts.
Falling ill is not something you desire, but I still recommend being patient and facing it bravely.
Collaborate with your physician and adhere to the treatment plan.
During your follow-up visits, you can discuss your current situation with your doctor.
You and your brother should also be patient in making friends of the opposite sex.
It’s advisable for both of you to take good care of yourselves, allowing your strengths to shine, and patiently wait for fate to bring the right connections.
Wishing you all the best.

Reply Date: 2019/10/10

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Dear A-Ming,
Thank you for reaching out again and sharing your ongoing struggles. It’s clear that you are facing a multitude of challenges that are affecting your emotional well-being and overall mental health. Let’s break down your concerns and explore some potential strategies for managing these difficulties.

1. Emotional Regulation: It’s understandable that you feel overwhelmed by your emotions, especially when dealing with people you perceive as adversaries. Anger and frustration are natural responses, but it’s crucial to find healthier outlets for these feelings. Consider practicing mindfulness techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or journaling. These methods can help you process your emotions without resorting to outbursts or negative self-talk. Additionally, if you find yourself forgetting to take your medication, setting reminders on your phone or using a pill organizer might help ensure you stay on track.

2. Financial and Living Situation: Your financial constraints and living situation are understandably stressful. It’s essential to create a budget that accounts for your expenses and allows for some flexibility. If moving out is a goal, consider exploring shared living arrangements or looking for part-time work that fits your schedule better. It may also be beneficial to speak with a financial advisor or a social worker who can provide guidance on managing your finances and exploring potential assistance programs.

3. Cognitive Challenges: Forgetfulness can be frustrating, especially when it interferes with your daily life. This could be related to stress, medication side effects, or even the natural aging process. Keeping a daily planner or using apps designed for task management can help you stay organized and reduce the cognitive load. If this issue persists, discussing it with your psychiatrist may lead to adjustments in your treatment plan.

4. Social Connections and Relationships: Your desire for companionship is completely valid. Building relationships takes time and effort, especially when you feel constrained by your circumstances. Consider engaging in social activities or groups that align with your interests. This could be a hobby class, volunteer work, or community events. These environments can provide opportunities to meet new people in a low-pressure setting. Remember, it’s important to be patient with yourself and recognize that building connections often takes time.

5. Seeking Professional Help: Given the complexity of your situation, it may be beneficial to continue working with your mental health professional. They can help you navigate your feelings of anger, frustration, and sadness, and provide strategies tailored to your specific needs. If you feel that your current treatment isn’t addressing all your concerns, don’t hesitate to discuss this with your doctor. They can help you explore other therapeutic options or medications that may be more effective.

6. Self-Compassion: Lastly, it’s vital to practice self-compassion. Acknowledge that you are doing your best in a challenging situation. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, and seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who understand your journey, whether they are friends, family, or support groups.

In summary, your journey through these emotional struggles is significant, and it’s important to take it one step at a time. By focusing on emotional regulation, managing your finances, addressing cognitive challenges, fostering social connections, and seeking professional support, you can work towards a more balanced and fulfilling life. Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and there are resources available to help you navigate these challenges.

Take care, and I wish you the best on your path to healing and growth.

Sincerely,
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