Normal intercourse but unable to ejaculate?
Hello Doctor: I have been accustomed to pressing and rubbing my genitals against the floor since I was very young, using this method for masturbation.
During my teenage years, I continued to ejaculate in a semi-erect state in this manner.
Although I have no issues with normal sexual intercourse as an adult, with normal erection angles and duration, I am unable to ejaculate.
When I approach climax, I only feel the urge to urinate.
I have tried various positions and angles during intercourse but still cannot ejaculate; I can only achieve ejaculation through the specific angle I used for masturbation.
Should I seek medication from a hospital, or can I improve this condition on my own (for example, by urinating when I have morning erections)? Thank you.
You Nian Ku Nao De Nan Zi, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2019/10/20
Dr. Du Shixi reply Urology
Hello: Your issue may stem from long-term habits, as you have become accustomed to ejaculating under certain conditions.
It may be necessary to change this habit.
However, actual sexual intercourse is quite different from masturbation, and it is very possible that you may be able to ejaculate normally during sexual activity.
Seeking medical advice is an option, but to my knowledge, there may not be any specific medications to improve this situation.
As for the firmness of the erection during urination, it is likely not a significant problem.
Wishing you good health.
Reply Date: 2019/10/20
More Info
Ejaculation issues during intercourse can be a complex and sensitive topic, often involving both physiological and psychological factors. Based on your description, it seems you have developed a specific pattern of sexual arousal and ejaculation that is tied to certain physical stimuli and positions. This is not uncommon, as many individuals have unique preferences and habits that can influence their sexual responses.
Understanding the Causes
1. Physiological Factors: The body can become conditioned to respond to specific stimuli. In your case, the habit of pressing and rubbing the genital area in a particular way may have created a strong association between that action and ejaculation. This can lead to difficulties in achieving ejaculation during intercourse, as the body may not respond in the same way to different stimuli.
2. Psychological Factors: Anxiety, stress, and performance pressure can significantly impact sexual function. If you are anxious about your ability to ejaculate during intercourse, this anxiety can create a cycle of worry that makes it even harder to achieve ejaculation. Additionally, if you have developed a mental association between certain positions or actions and ejaculation, this can further complicate the situation.
3. Physical Health: Conditions such as hormonal imbalances, nerve damage, or other medical issues can also affect ejaculation. It’s important to consider whether there are any underlying health issues that could be contributing to your experience.
Potential Solutions
1. Consult a Healthcare Professional: Before considering medication, it is advisable to consult with a healthcare provider, preferably a urologist or a sexual health specialist. They can help determine if there are any underlying medical conditions that need to be addressed. They may also recommend specific treatments or therapies tailored to your situation.
2. Behavioral Techniques: You might benefit from exploring different sexual techniques and positions that do not rely on the specific habits you have developed. Gradually introducing new stimuli and allowing your body to adapt can be helpful. For example, practicing mindfulness during intercourse can help reduce anxiety and improve your ability to focus on the experience rather than the outcome.
3. Pelvic Floor Exercises: Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles through exercises like Kegels can improve sexual function and control. These exercises can help enhance blood flow and improve muscle tone, potentially aiding in ejaculation.
4. Gradual Exposure: If you find that certain positions or actions are more effective for you, consider gradually introducing variations of those actions during intercourse. This can help your body learn to respond to different stimuli while still feeling comfortable.
5. Medication: If after consulting with a healthcare professional it is determined that medication may be beneficial, there are options available that can help with sexual function. However, this should be a last resort after exploring behavioral and psychological approaches.
6. Therapy: If anxiety or psychological factors are significant contributors to your experience, consider seeking therapy. A mental health professional can help you work through any underlying issues and develop coping strategies.
Conclusion
Ejaculation issues during intercourse can be frustrating and concerning, but they are often manageable with the right approach. It’s essential to understand that you are not alone in this experience, and many people face similar challenges. Consulting with a healthcare professional is a crucial first step in addressing your concerns. They can provide guidance tailored to your specific situation and help you explore both medical and behavioral solutions. Remember, patience and open communication with your partner can also play a significant role in navigating this issue.
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