Let's talk about my concerns again?
Dear Doctor,
Thank you for your enthusiastic response along with Dr.
Zhou.
After receiving your and Dr.
Zhou's feedback, I have decided not to engage in any further discussions with that bad teacher, even if she approaches me.
However, I seem to have made a mistake.
She (who is female) mentioned that I could talk to a psychiatrist for an hour, but he had to observe from the side.
Coincidentally, I had a class that I did not want to attend that day, so I went ahead with the discussion.
I requested that he not sit next to me but observe from a distance.
During the conversation with the doctor, I did not feel uncomfortable, and afterward, I did not have any particular feelings about it.
What surprised me, though, was that a few days later, that bad teacher excitedly approached me and said that the doctor informed her that I have Asperger's syndrome and a nonverbal learning disability.
I told her I did not know what that was.
She explained that it is a subtype of autism related to Asperger's syndrome.
Then, in front of several people, she happily stated that I exhibit several markers: nonverbal learning disability, ADHD, depression, autism, etc.
I do not understand what she meant by all this.
Even if I truly have these conditions, it does not matter, but what is her intention? To add to my suffering? To increase my labels? To take pride in having a rich case history? How should I express my anger and dissatisfaction to her? Deep down, she is no longer my teacher; I only feel disgust and anger towards her.
u, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2002/12/13
Dr. Zhang Hongjun reply Psychiatry
Student U: I suggest that you do not need to directly confront him to express your anger and dissatisfaction; instead, consider this as a learning experience in life.
Additionally, I hope you can clearly express your intentions regarding matters you find inappropriate and have the courage to refuse.
Dr.
Zhang Hongjun 91-12-16
Reply Date: 2002/12/13
More Info
Navigating mental health challenges can be incredibly complex, especially when it involves misunderstandings and mislabeling by others. Your experience highlights a significant issue: the impact of labels and how they can affect one's self-perception and interactions with others. It’s essential to recognize that mental health conditions, such as Asperger's syndrome (now considered part of Autism Spectrum Disorder) and nonverbal learning disabilities, are not inherently negative; they simply represent different ways of processing information and interacting with the world.
Firstly, it’s crucial to understand that labels can sometimes carry a stigma. When someone, especially an authority figure like a teacher, publicly identifies you with certain conditions, it can feel invalidating and humiliating. This is particularly true if the person seems to take pleasure in discussing your mental health status in front of others, as it can feel like they are reducing your identity to a set of diagnoses rather than seeing you as a whole person. It’s understandable to feel anger and frustration towards this teacher for their insensitivity.
In dealing with this situation, consider the following steps:
1. Self-Reflection: Take time to process your feelings. It’s okay to feel hurt and angry. Acknowledge these emotions and understand that they are valid responses to being labeled inappropriately.
2. Educate Yourself: Understanding what Asperger's syndrome and nonverbal learning disabilities entail can empower you. Knowledge can help you articulate your experiences and feelings more clearly. It may also help you to see these labels not as limitations but as aspects of your unique cognitive profile.
3. Communicate Your Feelings: If you feel comfortable, consider addressing your feelings with the teacher. You might express how their comments made you feel and explain that being labeled in such a way is not helpful for you. Use "I" statements to convey your feelings without sounding accusatory, such as "I felt uncomfortable when you shared my diagnosis with others."
4. Seek Support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional about your experiences. They can provide validation and help you process your feelings. Support groups, either in-person or online, can also be beneficial, as they connect you with others who may have similar experiences.
5. Focus on Your Strengths: While it’s easy to get caught up in the labels, try to focus on your strengths and what makes you unique. Many individuals with Asperger's syndrome and nonverbal learning disabilities have exceptional talents and abilities. Emphasizing these can help shift your focus from the negative aspects of the labels to the positive attributes you possess.
6. Consider Professional Guidance: If the situation continues to affect your mental health, consider speaking with a mental health professional. They can help you develop coping strategies and work through any feelings of anger or frustration you may have towards the teacher and the situation.
7. Set Boundaries: If this teacher continues to bring up your mental health status inappropriately, it may be necessary to set boundaries. You have the right to protect your mental well-being, and it’s okay to limit interactions with individuals who do not respect your privacy or feelings.
In conclusion, while labels can sometimes feel like a burden, they do not define you. It’s essential to advocate for yourself and seek understanding and support from those who respect your experiences. Remember, mental health is a journey, and it’s okay to seek help along the way. Your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
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