Genital issues
Before having a child, my wife and I had a normal and pleasurable sexual relationship.
However, since giving birth, which was over three years ago, my wife no longer feels the same sensations during intercourse.
Even though I penetrate deeply, she only mentions feeling discomfort.
I have researched online and found that it might be due to her vagina not having fully recovered.
How should we address this situation? Should we continue with uterine massage like we did for postpartum recovery? Please help, thank you.
A Bin, 40~49 year old female. Ask Date: 2020/09/21
Dr. Xu Wencang reply Urology
If you have any concerns, it is advisable to seek medical attention from a physician.
Thank you.
Reply Date: 2020/09/21
More Info
Postpartum intimacy issues are a common concern for many couples after childbirth. The changes that occur in a woman's body during and after pregnancy can significantly affect her sexual health and intimacy. It’s important to understand these changes and explore solutions to help restore intimacy in your relationship.
Firstly, it’s essential to recognize that after childbirth, a woman’s body undergoes numerous physical and hormonal changes. The vagina may experience changes in elasticity, lubrication, and sensitivity, which can lead to discomfort or a lack of sensation during intercourse. This is often exacerbated by hormonal fluctuations, particularly if the woman is breastfeeding, as lactation can lead to lower estrogen levels, resulting in vaginal dryness.
In your case, since your wife is experiencing discomfort and a lack of sensation during intercourse, it’s crucial to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. Here are some steps you can take to address these intimacy issues:
1. Open Communication: Discuss your feelings and concerns with your wife. Encourage her to share her experiences and any discomfort she may be feeling. Open communication can help both partners understand each other's needs and feelings better.
2. Consult a Healthcare Provider: It may be beneficial for your wife to consult with her healthcare provider or a pelvic floor specialist. They can assess her physical condition and provide tailored advice or treatment options. Sometimes, pelvic floor therapy can help strengthen the pelvic muscles and improve sexual function.
3. Use Lubrication: If vaginal dryness is an issue, using a water-based lubricant can enhance comfort during intercourse. This can help alleviate discomfort and make the experience more pleasurable for both partners.
4. Gradual Reintroduction of Intimacy: It may be helpful to gradually reintroduce intimacy. This can include non-penetrative activities such as kissing, cuddling, and other forms of physical affection that can help build intimacy without the pressure of penetration.
5. Explore Different Positions: Sometimes, trying different sexual positions can help find what feels best for both partners. Certain positions may reduce discomfort and allow for a more pleasurable experience.
6. Massage and Relaxation Techniques: While massaging the uterus can help with postpartum recovery, focusing on relaxation techniques, such as gentle massages or warm baths, can also help reduce tension and improve intimacy. This can create a more relaxed environment for both partners.
7. Patience and Understanding: It’s important to be patient. Recovery from childbirth can take time, and intimacy may not return to its previous state immediately. Understanding and support from both partners are crucial during this period.
8. Consider Counseling: If intimacy issues persist, seeking couples counseling or sex therapy can provide a safe space to explore these challenges. A professional can offer strategies and support to help both partners navigate this sensitive topic.
In conclusion, postpartum intimacy issues are common and can be addressed through open communication, professional guidance, and a willingness to adapt and explore new ways to connect. It’s essential to prioritize both partners’ comfort and feelings, ensuring that intimacy can gradually be restored in a way that feels good for both of you. Remember, every couple’s journey is unique, and it’s okay to seek help along the way.
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