Dyspareunia
Hello: I have been experiencing pain during intercourse for a long time.
My partner indicates that they do not feel discomfort during the process, and their genital area is also moist (though I'm not sure if it's sufficiently lubricated).
However, I often feel discomfort in my penis due to friction.
Could this be because my foreskin is too long? My foreskin can retract completely, and I previously consulted a urologist who mentioned that circumcision is optional for me.
I'm unsure whether the issue lies with me or my partner, which is causing the pain during friction.
Sam, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2020/10/24
Dr. Fu Shizhang reply Urology
Pain during the process may be related to balanitis, which could be associated with excessive foreskin length.
Circumcision may be considered.
Online consultations cannot replace an in-person examination and physical assessment by a physician.
It is still recommended to seek medical attention at a healthcare facility when experiencing health issues.
Reply Date: 2020/10/24
More Info
Understanding pain during intercourse can be a complex issue, often involving both physical and psychological factors. Based on your description, it seems that you are experiencing discomfort during sexual activity, while your partner does not report any issues. This discrepancy can be frustrating and may lead to concerns about the underlying causes.
One potential factor contributing to your discomfort could be related to the length of your foreskin. If the foreskin is longer than average, it may not retract fully during intercourse, leading to friction and discomfort. While you mentioned that your foreskin can retract completely, it’s important to consider whether it does so comfortably during sexual activity. If there is any tightness or difficulty in retraction, this could lead to pain.
Another aspect to consider is lubrication. Even if your partner is adequately aroused, sometimes additional lubrication is necessary to prevent friction that can cause discomfort. Using a water-based lubricant can help reduce friction and enhance comfort during intercourse. If you find that lubrication helps alleviate the pain, it may indicate that dryness is a contributing factor.
In addition to physical factors, psychological aspects can also play a significant role in sexual comfort. Anxiety, stress, or past negative experiences can lead to tension, which may exacerbate physical discomfort. It’s essential to create a relaxed environment and communicate openly with your partner about what feels comfortable and what doesn’t. This communication can help both of you navigate any discomfort and find solutions together.
If the pain persists despite trying lubrication and ensuring that both partners are adequately aroused, it may be beneficial to consult with a healthcare professional, such as a urologist or a sexual health specialist. They can perform a thorough examination to rule out any underlying medical conditions, such as infections, skin conditions, or anatomical issues that may be contributing to your discomfort.
In some cases, conditions like phimosis (where the foreskin cannot be easily retracted) or balanitis (inflammation of the glans) can cause pain during intercourse. If these conditions are present, treatment options may include topical medications or, in some cases, circumcision if deemed necessary.
It’s also worth considering the possibility of pelvic floor dysfunction, which can affect both men and women. This condition involves the muscles of the pelvic floor being too tight or not functioning correctly, leading to pain during intercourse. A pelvic floor physical therapist can provide exercises and techniques to help relax these muscles and improve comfort.
In summary, pain during intercourse can stem from a variety of factors, including anatomical issues, lubrication, psychological factors, and pelvic floor dysfunction. Open communication with your partner, experimenting with lubrication, and consulting with a healthcare professional can help identify the underlying cause and lead to effective solutions. Remember, sexual health is an important aspect of overall well-being, and seeking help is a positive step toward addressing any concerns you may have.
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