I tend to hit my bed partner while sleeping?
Hello Doctor, I am a college student and have experienced sleep issues such as vivid dreaming and bruxism since puberty, which continue to this day.
I also had episodes of sleepwalking, which were more common in elementary school but have decreased since middle school.
I didn't pay much attention to these symptoms because they have been part of my life for so long, and I didn't feel particularly tired.
Recently, however, while going to bed with my boyfriend, I dreamt that he bit my nose.
If I were awake, I would protest but not act violently.
Yet, in the dream, I chose to punch him in a sensitive area, which was very aggressive.
This kind of incident doesn't happen often, but it's not unprecedented.
In fact, about a year ago and five years ago, I attacked my mother and an ex-partner, respectively.
During those times, I was aware of my actions (knowing I was hitting someone), but I didn't understand why I was doing it, nor did I feel any emotions.
I only became aware of my actions when the other person reacted or after I had attacked them.
I am fully aware that I do not want to harm those around me, yet I cannot control my behavior during sleep.
Should I seek medical attention? However, since these incidents are infrequent, can they be considered isolated events? I feel very guilty about harming those close to me and am unsure how to improve this situation.
Thank you, Doctor.
Yuan Yuan, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/12/04
Dr. Zhang Fangrong reply Psychiatry
Dear Sir/Madam,
Thank you for your inquiry.
Based on the process you described, it is more likely to be "REM Sleep Behavior Disorder." However, most sleepwalkers do not remember what happened.
First, it is important to rule out whether any medications, including cold medications, were taken at the time of the incident.
Next, we need to determine if the event occurred during sleep, while still awake, or if the individual was in a transitional state.
If the behavior occurred during sleep and was uncontrollable, many hospitals have sleep study centers where you can arrange for outpatient consultation and evaluation.
I believe you will receive satisfactory answers and can further discuss necessary treatment plans with your physician.
Wishing you good mental and physical health.
Sincerely,
Dr.
Fang-Rong Chang, Psychiatry
Reply Date: 2021/12/04
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Understanding sleep violence, particularly in the context of dreams turning into nightmares, is a complex issue that intertwines various aspects of sleep disorders, psychological factors, and individual experiences. Your situation, characterized by violent actions during sleep, raises important questions about the nature of your sleep disturbances and their potential implications.
Firstly, it's essential to recognize that behaviors such as sleepwalking, sleep talking, and even sleep-related violence are classified under parasomnias. These are abnormal behaviors that occur during sleep, often during transitions between sleep stages, particularly from non-REM to REM sleep. In your case, the episodes of physically attacking your boyfriend or family members during sleep could be categorized as a form of REM sleep behavior disorder (RBD). This disorder is characterized by the loss of normal muscle atonia during REM sleep, allowing individuals to act out their dreams, which can sometimes result in violent behavior.
The fact that you have a history of vivid dreaming, sleepwalking, and bruxism (teeth grinding) suggests that your sleep architecture may be disrupted. Stress, anxiety, and irregular sleep patterns can exacerbate these conditions. The emotional state during waking hours can also influence the content of your dreams and the likelihood of acting them out. For instance, if you are experiencing heightened stress or unresolved emotional conflicts, these feelings may manifest in your dreams, leading to aggressive behaviors.
You mentioned that these violent episodes are infrequent and that you do not harbor any desire to harm those around you. This self-awareness is crucial. It indicates that while your body may react violently during sleep, your conscious mind does not support these actions. However, the unpredictability of such behaviors can understandably lead to feelings of guilt and anxiety about your ability to control your actions while asleep.
Given the potential risks associated with sleep violence, it is advisable to consult a healthcare professional, particularly a sleep specialist or a psychiatrist. They can conduct a thorough evaluation, which may include a sleep study (polysomnography) to monitor your sleep patterns and behaviors. This assessment can help determine if you have a specific sleep disorder that requires intervention.
In the meantime, there are several strategies you can consider to help manage your sleep disturbances:
1. Sleep Hygiene: Establish a consistent sleep schedule, create a relaxing bedtime routine, and ensure your sleep environment is conducive to restful sleep. This includes minimizing noise, light, and other distractions.
2. Stress Management: Engage in relaxation techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, or yoga to help reduce overall stress levels. Addressing any underlying emotional issues through therapy can also be beneficial.
3. Avoid Stimulants: Limit caffeine and alcohol intake, especially in the hours leading up to bedtime, as these substances can disrupt sleep patterns.
4. Communication: Discuss your sleep issues with your partner. Open communication can help alleviate anxiety about your behavior during sleep and foster understanding and support.
5. Safety Measures: Consider implementing safety measures in your sleep environment, such as removing sharp objects or barriers that could cause injury during an episode.
In conclusion, while your experiences may currently feel manageable, the potential for harm to yourself or others during sleep-related violence necessitates a proactive approach. Seeking professional guidance will not only provide clarity on your condition but also equip you with effective strategies to mitigate these episodes and enhance your overall sleep quality. Remember, you are not alone in this, and there are resources available to help you navigate these challenges.
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