Struggles with Mental Health: My Brother's Reluctance for Counseling - Psychiatry

My brother is unwilling to seek psychological counseling?

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The situation is as follows: In September 2021, my younger brother (the youngest) just started high school.
After a few weeks, he suddenly changed his demeanor, expressing to my parents that he didn't want to go to school.
He became very silent and expressionless, ignoring anyone who spoke to him.
When my parents inquired about his situation at school, his homeroom teacher reported that he occasionally joked around with classmates or said nonsensical things, but everything else seemed normal.
Later, my brother expressed thoughts of wanting to die, prompting my parents to ask if he would like to see a psychologist, to which he agreed.
After attending counseling, he showed some improvement, but then a new situation arose at home.
My parents asked him if he wanted to retake the entrance exam to switch schools.
Initially, he insisted on studying at home, but since the family couldn't afford that, he eventually expressed a desire to retake the exam.
During the retake period, aside from occasional counseling and classes, he became heavily reliant on electronic devices, rarely going outside.
His father would often ask him if he wanted to go biking together, and he would reluctantly agree to go out occasionally.
As the counseling and retake period progressed, I noticed that my brother spoke to my father very rudely and sarcastically.
However, my father, not wanting my brother to fall back into depression, went along with his behavior.
My brother's demands became increasingly extravagant, and I communicated with my mother that this was not acceptable, but I ended up being scolded instead.
Since I mostly live outside the home, my sister (the second child) had to endure this strange situation at home, and the atmosphere changed significantly from before.
Eventually, my brother passed the entrance exam for high school, and his counseling sessions came to a close.
During his time at school, he was reluctant to attend classes, and my parents never placed special demands on his grades; they only hoped he could enjoy learning.
However, my brother sometimes made strange excuses to take leave from school.
Although my parents allowed him to take time off, I personally felt this was abnormal.
Recently, my father suddenly had an argument with my brother, seemingly exploding after enduring my brother's rudeness for too long.
My father was just joking with him as usual, but my brother, not liking the joke, slammed the door in front of my father.
My father, angry, opened the door and said, "You shouldn't react like that if you don't like the joke." After my father spoke, my brother slammed the door again (poor door).
After that, my brother started throwing chairs in his room.
My mother, hearing the commotion, rushed upstairs to check the situation.
When she opened the door, my brother yelled, "Do you think I'm happy? I'm happy on the surface, but not at all inside! I want to die!" My father was stunned upon hearing this.
Later, my parents went downstairs to discuss things, and although my father apologized for his behavior, my brother remained silent.
Since that day, my brother reverted to his previous state from last year, completely shutting down and spending all his time in his room watching anime, playing computer games, and using his phone.
My parents' attempts to communicate with him went unanswered, and the same happened when my sister and I tried to talk to him.
During dinner, he would come down very late, and I was unsure if he was doing any household chores.
A few days ago, during Christmas, I asked my brother if he wanted to eat something, and he glanced at me before looking away towards the food.
I thought he was contemplating, but after waiting nearly a minute, I realized he was still closed off.
After dinner, he went straight upstairs.
Since my brother's school has been on break, he has been home.
Today, my sister told me that our mother had scheduled an afternoon counseling session for him.
When she went upstairs to inform him, he suddenly yelled, "Don't touch me!" and kept saying "No," before falling silent.
My sister went upstairs to check and found our mother standing outside on the balcony, seemingly trying to hide her tears from my sister.
I believe my mother must have asked my brother about the counseling session beforehand, but I can imagine that my brother likely didn't respond, as he was probably just scrolling through his phone or playing on the computer, which I have witnessed before.
Both my sister and I feel very sad seeing our parents distressed over my brother's issues.
They have become increasingly worried, and no matter how hard we try to cheer them up, it seems difficult.
Sometimes, it even feels awkward for both of us, and the atmosphere at home is very uncomfortable.
Although my brother is currently on break from school, I worry that he might refuse to go back once classes resume.
Given his current state, he is also unwilling to attend counseling, leaving the family very troubled and unsure of what to do.
If this continues, my mother might also develop depression.

Additional note: My brother does not exhibit self-harming behavior, and my parents are generally good at communicating.
However, since my brother's issues began last year, they have become very accommodating to him.

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Kunrao de jiejie, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/12/28