Premature Ejaculation: A Guide for Young Men - Urology

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Premature ejaculation during masturbation?


Hello doctor, I am an 18-year-old student.
When I masturbate, I usually ejaculate within 1 to 2 minutes, and sometimes I feel the urge to ejaculate after just a few strokes.
I have asked friends my age, and they say it takes them much longer to reach ejaculation.
Can you help me? Thank you.

Xiao Ba, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2023/02/09

Dr. Chen Jiansheng reply Urology


Please seek medical attention.

Reply Date: 2023/02/09

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Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common concern among young men, and it can be particularly distressing for those who feel they are experiencing it at an earlier rate than their peers. At 18 years old, it's important to understand that sexual development varies significantly from person to person, and what you are experiencing may not be unusual for your age group.

Firstly, it's crucial to define what premature ejaculation is. Generally, PE is characterized by ejaculation that occurs with minimal sexual stimulation, often within one minute of penetration, or before the individual wishes it to happen. However, in your case, since you are primarily referring to masturbation, the context can be slightly different. Many young men experience rapid ejaculation during solo activities due to heightened arousal and the absence of the same level of stimulation that might occur during partnered sexual activity.

Several factors can contribute to premature ejaculation, including psychological aspects such as anxiety, stress, or performance pressure. At your age, it's common to feel anxious about sexual performance, especially when comparing yourself to friends or peers. This anxiety can create a cycle where the fear of premature ejaculation leads to increased arousal and, paradoxically, quicker ejaculation.
Physiological factors can also play a role. Hormonal levels, sensitivity of the penis, and even the frequency of sexual activity can influence how quickly one ejaculates. If you are frequently engaging in masturbation, your body may become accustomed to quicker ejaculation due to the repetitive nature of the activity.
Here are some strategies that may help you manage and potentially improve your situation:
1. Relaxation Techniques: Practice deep breathing or mindfulness exercises to help reduce anxiety related to sexual performance. The more relaxed you are, the less pressure you will feel, which may help you last longer.

2. Desensitization Techniques: Some men find that using desensitizing creams or sprays can help reduce sensitivity and prolong the experience. However, it's important to use these products as directed and consult with a healthcare professional if you're unsure.

3. Pelvic Floor Exercises: Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles through Kegel exercises can help you gain better control over ejaculation. These exercises involve repeatedly contracting and relaxing the muscles you would use to stop urination.

4. Gradual Exposure: If you are comfortable, try to gradually increase the time you spend stimulating yourself before ejaculation. This can help train your body to last longer.

5. Communication: If you have a partner, open communication about your concerns can alleviate some pressure. Discussing your experiences and working together can lead to a more enjoyable sexual experience for both of you.

6. Consult a Professional: If your concerns persist or worsen, consider speaking with a healthcare provider or a therapist specializing in sexual health. They can provide tailored advice and support based on your specific situation.

In summary, while it may feel concerning to experience rapid ejaculation, especially when comparing yourself to others, it's essential to remember that sexual experiences are highly individual. Many young men go through similar phases, and with time, practice, and possibly some professional guidance, you can develop greater control and confidence in your sexual experiences.

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