Depression
Hello! My parents passed away from liver cancer when I was 12 and 14 years old.
After that, I found myself becoming very anxious and fearful of death.
I often get extremely nervous over minor health issues.
I live with my aunt now, and when I express my discomfort, she tends to say that I’m overreacting.
However, I feel like I can't help but be anxious! I frequently feel like I'm on the verge of dying, and sometimes I have thoughts of self-harm (though I lack the courage to act on them).
I've always wanted to talk to my aunt about this, but for various reasons, I haven't.
Recently, I've also been stressed about my studies! I feel quite conflicted; I'm afraid of getting sick but have a habit of staying up late.
I want to organize my schoolwork, but I just can't find the motivation.
It's really frustrating—thank you for your response!
Xiao Qian, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/01/11
Dr. Xie Qingzhou reply Psychiatry
Hello! Based on the symptoms you described, it seems you are experiencing anxiety and a lower tolerance for stress, which may be related to personality traits and early life experiences.
It would be advisable to seek counseling from a professional psychologist or psychiatrist, or to undergo psychotherapy after an evaluation.
If your condition worsens under stress to the point of developing psychosomatic symptoms, it is recommended to promptly visit a psychiatric or psychosomatic clinic.
Initially, medication treatment can help alleviate discomfort, followed by further appropriate therapies.
Sincerely, Dr.
Hsieh Ching-Chou, Department of Psychosomatic Medicine, Taoyuan Hospital, Ministry of Health and Welfare.
Reply Date: 2004/01/11
More Info
Coping with anxiety and grief, especially after experiencing the loss of loved ones at a young age, can be an incredibly challenging journey. The feelings you describe—nervousness, fear of death, and the overwhelming anxiety that accompanies even minor health concerns—are common responses to grief and loss. It’s important to recognize that these feelings are valid and that you are not alone in experiencing them.
The loss of your parents at such formative ages likely had a profound impact on your emotional and psychological development. Grief can manifest in various ways, including anxiety, depression, and even physical symptoms. The fear of illness or death can become heightened, especially when one has experienced significant loss. This heightened sensitivity can lead to a cycle of anxiety where you become overly focused on your health, fearing that any small ailment could lead to something more serious.
It's also understandable that you feel conflicted about your academic responsibilities. The pressure to perform well in school can exacerbate feelings of anxiety, especially when combined with the grief you are processing. It's common for individuals in your situation to feel overwhelmed and to struggle with motivation, particularly when they are dealing with underlying emotional pain.
Here are some strategies that may help you cope with your anxiety and grief:
1. Talk About Your Feelings: While you mentioned wanting to talk to your aunt but feeling unable to do so, it’s crucial to find someone you trust to share your feelings with. This could be a family member, a close friend, or even a counselor. Expressing your thoughts and emotions can help alleviate some of the burdens you carry.
2. Seek Professional Help: Given the intensity of your feelings and the impact they have on your daily life, it may be beneficial to seek the help of a mental health professional. A therapist can provide you with coping strategies tailored to your specific situation and help you work through your grief and anxiety in a safe environment.
3. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Engaging in mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep breathing exercises, can help ground you in the present moment and reduce anxiety. These techniques can help you manage your fear of illness by shifting your focus away from catastrophic thinking.
4. Establish a Routine: Creating a daily routine that includes time for study, relaxation, and self-care can help you regain a sense of control. Incorporating regular physical activity, healthy eating, and sufficient sleep can also improve your overall well-being.
5. Limit Exposure to Triggers: If certain activities or information exacerbate your anxiety (such as excessive health-related research), it may be helpful to limit your exposure to these triggers. Instead, focus on activities that bring you joy and relaxation.
6. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic way to process your emotions. It can also help you identify patterns in your thinking and behavior, which can be useful when discussing your feelings with a therapist.
7. Connect with Support Groups: Sometimes, connecting with others who have experienced similar losses can provide comfort and understanding. Look for local or online support groups for individuals dealing with grief and anxiety.
8. Be Kind to Yourself: Understand that healing from grief and managing anxiety is a process that takes time. Allow yourself to feel your emotions without judgment and recognize that it’s okay to seek help when you need it.
In conclusion, coping with anxiety and grief is a complex journey that requires patience and self-compassion. By taking proactive steps to address your feelings and seeking support, you can begin to navigate this challenging time in your life. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources available to help you through this difficult period.
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