Not enough hardness??!!
I would like to ask: In the past, when I had sexual intercourse, I was always firm and could last quite a long time.
However, recently (for about 1-2 years), when I engage in sexual activity, I can still be quite hard and firm during oral sex, but when I try to penetrate, it only takes a few seconds before I become soft, and sometimes I can't even insert.
The doctor mentioned it might be a psychological factor; however, when I masturbate alone, I also experience this issue.
While I am stroking, everything seems normal, but once my hand stops, it becomes soft within a minute, even when I am alone.
It shouldn't be a psychological factor, right? What should I do?
Dick, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/10/27
Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology
Hello: Based on your description, it seems that psychological factors play a significant role.
Of course, there is also a part that is due to insufficient stimulation (or it can be said that it has become monotonous and lost its novelty).
When stimulation is adequate, there will be a response; however, if the stimulation is slightly reduced, it may feel insufficient.
To address this issue, I personally suggest the following: 1.
Change your attire: wear more seductive clothing, etc.
2.
Alter your sexual behavior patterns: for example, change positions or vary the timing of intercourse.
3.
Eliminate bad habits and maintain a regular routine: quit smoking.
4.
Consume alcohol in moderation; having a drink before engaging in sexual activity may be helpful.
If none of these solutions are effective, I recommend seeking help from a specialist for further evaluation, such as a cavernosography, to check for any venous leakage.
Sincerely, Dr.
Hsu Wei-Kai, Urology Department, Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan.
Reply Date: 2004/10/27
More Info
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common issue that can affect men of all ages, and it can stem from a variety of causes, both physical and psychological. Based on your description, it seems that you are experiencing difficulties maintaining an erection during sexual activity, even though you can achieve an erection during masturbation. This discrepancy can be frustrating and may lead to feelings of anxiety or inadequacy.
Understanding the Causes
1. Physical Factors:
- Hormonal Imbalances: Low testosterone levels can lead to decreased libido and erectile difficulties. Hormonal evaluations can help determine if this is a contributing factor.
- Vascular Issues: Conditions that affect blood flow, such as atherosclerosis or high blood pressure, can impede the ability to maintain an erection. A thorough cardiovascular assessment may be warranted.
- Neurological Conditions: Nerve damage from diabetes, multiple sclerosis, or spinal cord injuries can also affect erectile function.
- Medications: Certain medications, including antidepressants and blood pressure medications, can have side effects that impact erectile function.
2. Psychological Factors:
- Performance Anxiety: Worrying about sexual performance can create a cycle of anxiety that makes it difficult to maintain an erection.
- Stress and Depression: Mental health issues can significantly impact sexual function. If you are experiencing stress or depression, addressing these issues may improve your sexual health.
- Relationship Issues: Sometimes, difficulties in a relationship can manifest as sexual dysfunction. Open communication with your partner can be beneficial.
Solutions and Treatment Options
1. Medical Evaluation:
- It is essential to consult with a healthcare provider to evaluate potential underlying causes. This may include blood tests to check hormone levels, a physical examination, and possibly imaging studies to assess blood flow.
2. Psychological Counseling:
- If psychological factors are suspected, therapy with a psychologist or sex therapist can help address anxiety, stress, or relationship issues. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) has been shown to be effective for many men experiencing ED.
3. Lifestyle Modifications:
- Diet and Exercise: A healthy diet and regular exercise can improve overall health and blood flow, which may help with erectile function.
- Avoiding Alcohol and Smoking: Both can negatively affect erectile function, so reducing or eliminating these substances can be beneficial.
4. Medications:
- Phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitors (such as Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra) are commonly prescribed for ED. These medications enhance blood flow to the penis and can help maintain an erection during sexual activity.
5. Vacuum Erection Devices:
- These devices create a vacuum around the penis, drawing blood into it and helping to achieve an erection. They can be a non-invasive option for those who prefer to avoid medications.
6. Penile Injections or Implants:
- In cases where other treatments are ineffective, injections directly into the penis or surgical implants may be considered.
Conclusion
It’s important to remember that erectile dysfunction is a common issue and can often be treated effectively. The first step is to seek a comprehensive evaluation from a healthcare provider who specializes in sexual health. They can help identify the underlying causes and recommend appropriate treatment options tailored to your specific situation. Open communication with your partner and addressing any psychological factors can also play a significant role in improving your sexual health and overall well-being.
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