Younger brother
My younger brother has reached the age for marriage but has never had a girlfriend.
I later learned that he had a relationship with a senior during his freshman year.
However, when it came to the final step, the senior said he was too small, which made her very sad.
After that, he stopped dating.
I have seen my brother's penis, and it's actually not that small; there are many others who are smaller than him.
I don't know how to help my brother return to normal.
I don't understand why girls care about the size of the penis.
Medically, isn't it said that as long as a penis can achieve an erection and ejaculate, that defines a male? Although I am married, I still don't understand how to define penis size.
Seeing my brother like this makes me very sad; he has changed from a happy, sunny boy to this, all because of the perception of being too small.
Xiao Ge, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/12/06
Dr. Liu Jianting reply Urology
Oh! Men really have it tough! Basically, the types of men who cannot perform have long been extinct; those who can perform are more important.
The size is just a trivial joke that harms no one.
I recommend he read a book called "The Love of the Little Brother."
Reply Date: 2004/12/06
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The concerns surrounding penis size and its impact on relationships are common among men, especially during formative years. It's important to understand that while societal perceptions and personal experiences can significantly influence self-esteem and confidence, the medical perspective on sexual function and satisfaction is more nuanced.
Firstly, it's essential to recognize that penis size does not determine a man's ability to perform sexually or to satisfy a partner. Medical literature suggests that sexual satisfaction is influenced by a variety of factors, including emotional connection, communication, and technique, rather than just physical attributes. Many studies indicate that most women prioritize emotional intimacy and connection over size when it comes to sexual relationships.
In your case, the experience your younger brother had with his college girlfriend may have been particularly impactful. The comment about size can be devastating, especially if it leads to feelings of inadequacy. This reaction is not uncommon; many men internalize such feedback, leading to anxiety and a reluctance to pursue future relationships. It's crucial to address these feelings and help him understand that one negative experience does not define his worth or capabilities.
From a medical standpoint, the average erect penis size is typically between 5 to 6 inches in length, with a circumference of about 4.5 to 5 inches. However, there is a wide range of normal sizes, and many individuals fall outside this average without any issues regarding sexual function. The key point is that as long as a man can achieve an erection and ejaculate, he is functioning normally.
Moreover, psychological factors play a significant role in sexual performance. Anxiety, particularly performance anxiety, can lead to erectile dysfunction or difficulties in maintaining an erection. This is often exacerbated by negative experiences or comments about size. Encouraging your brother to seek counseling or therapy could be beneficial. A mental health professional can help him work through his feelings of inadequacy and develop healthier self-esteem.
Additionally, open communication with potential partners about sexual preferences and desires can foster a more positive sexual experience. Many couples find that discussing what they enjoy in bed leads to greater satisfaction than focusing on physical attributes.
In conclusion, while societal pressures and personal experiences can create significant anxiety around penis size, it is crucial to emphasize that sexual satisfaction is multifaceted. Encouraging your brother to focus on building confidence, improving communication skills, and understanding that emotional connection is paramount can help him regain his self-esteem and approach relationships with a healthier mindset. If he continues to struggle with these feelings, seeking professional help can provide him with the tools to navigate these challenges effectively.
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