Overcoming Anxiety About Penis Size: A College Student's Dilemma - Urology

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I am a third-year college student.
I have noticed that my penis is smaller than average, and I don't know what to do.
Every time I think about going to the hospital, I feel too scared to go.
I don't know how to handle this.
I can't talk to anyone about it; only one close friend from high school knows, and he has been encouraging me to see a doctor, but I still can't bring myself to do it.
I want to know if having a small penis is associated with any medical conditions.
Even my younger cousin in sixth grade has a penis that is twice the size of mine.
I really don't know what to do, and I am too afraid to go to the clinic.
I'm worried about my classmates finding out.
I'm just a concerned person.

Yi ge dan you de ren, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2004/12/28

Dr. Liu Jianting reply Urology


Sigh! People can be so competitive! Men have been comparing sizes from childhood to old age! As kids, they compare whose toy car is bigger, and as they grow up, they compare who has more money or more girlfriends...
the comparisons never end! Don't worry! The group with penises too small to engage in sexual intercourse has long been extinct; comparing sizes is just a way to deceive and intimidate! What matters is functionality.
If you're still concerned, you can visit a hospital and consult a urologist, who can recommend some books about sex, such as "About Sex" and "The Love of Little Brothers."

Reply Date: 2004/12/28

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It's completely understandable to feel anxious about personal issues, especially when it comes to something as sensitive as penis size. Many young men experience similar concerns, and it's important to recognize that these feelings are common. The first step in addressing your anxiety is to understand that penis size varies widely among individuals, and what you may perceive as "small" might actually be within the normal range.
From a medical perspective, there is no specific condition that defines a "normal" penis size, and the average size can vary based on numerous studies. Research has shown that the average erect penis size is approximately 5 to 6 inches in length, but many men fall outside this range and still lead healthy, fulfilling lives. It's crucial to remember that penis size does not determine your worth, masculinity, or ability to engage in satisfying sexual relationships.

Your anxiety about this issue may stem from societal pressures and unrealistic portrayals of masculinity in media. These portrayals can create a distorted view of what is considered "normal" or "desirable." It's essential to challenge these societal norms and recognize that confidence, communication, and emotional connection are far more important in intimate relationships than physical attributes.

If you're feeling overwhelmed by your concerns, it might be beneficial to speak with a mental health professional. A therapist can help you explore the root of your anxiety, provide coping strategies, and assist you in building self-esteem. Many college campuses offer counseling services that are confidential and can provide a safe space for you to discuss your feelings without judgment.

You mentioned that you have a close friend who encourages you to seek medical advice. While it can be daunting to visit a doctor, especially for a sensitive issue, healthcare professionals are trained to handle such matters with discretion and professionalism. If you have concerns about your penis size, a urologist can provide you with accurate information and help address any underlying medical issues. It's important to remember that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

In the meantime, consider focusing on aspects of yourself that you can control, such as your health, fitness, and personal interests. Engaging in activities that boost your confidence, like sports or hobbies, can help shift your focus away from your anxieties. Additionally, practicing mindfulness and relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing or meditation, can help reduce overall anxiety.

Lastly, remember that you are not alone in this experience. Many men share similar worries, and discussing these feelings with trusted friends or support groups can provide relief and perspective. Building a supportive network can help you feel less isolated and more empowered to face your concerns.

In summary, while anxiety about penis size is common, it's essential to recognize that it does not define you. Seeking professional help, focusing on self-improvement, and surrounding yourself with supportive individuals can significantly alleviate your concerns and help you lead a more fulfilling life.

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