Feeling very anxious?
Doctor, I currently have psychological barriers because I have read so many articles about erectile dysfunction and I feel like I might be experiencing this issue as well.
I am having difficulty achieving an erection and I don’t know what to do.
I used to masturbate frequently, which has now left me feeling very anxious.
The articles mention decreased sensitivity, and I find myself constantly thinking about how to get an erection.
Watching adult films doesn’t help, and I can’t even imagine intimate moments with my ex-girlfriend.
It feels like I have some kind of psychological barrier, and I realize that I can only achieve an erection with manual assistance, but it’s not very firm.
I’m not married and I have no sexual experience, and I really don’t know what to do.
Do I need to see a psychologist? Am I going to be unable to achieve an erection in the future? I am really scared because I am the eldest grandson, and I am very worried about not being able to reproduce.
Can you help me? Should I get tested? But I am afraid my parents will find out about this.
I feel like I might be developing depression, and it’s very hard for me to relax.
I do wake up with an erection in the morning, but it’s not very firm.
Should I not worry about whether I can achieve an erection? Will it be okay if I wait for a wet dream to happen? If that’s the case, I wonder why I haven’t had one yet.
Should I try to relax my mind? But how can I relax? Can you please advise me? Thank you.
Awei, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/05/07
Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology
Awei: Hello, at the age of 21, it is quite rare to have issues in this regard.
Generally, at this age, most individuals experience difficulties with endurance and are more sensitive.
From your description, it seems that you have significant psychological barriers.
I believe counseling would be beneficial; otherwise, merely imagining the situation could lead to further issues with your performance.
Please find a time to visit a hospital for an objective examination to determine if there are any actual problems.
Do not use the male leads in adult films as a standard; many of them are using medications or enhancements.
Nocturnal emissions are not related to sexual function.
The adequacy of rigidity should be measured with instruments, not just based on your perception.
At 21, it is indeed uncommon to have such issues; most are psychological barriers that can be resolved with some guidance.
Urology Department Chief, Hsu Wei-Kai, responding on behalf of the Taitung Hospital of the Department of Health, Executive Yuan, cares about you.
Reply Date: 2005/05/07
More Info
Erectile dysfunction (ED) can be a challenging issue, particularly when psychological barriers are involved. It's understandable to feel anxious or worried about your ability to achieve and maintain an erection, especially when you have been exposed to a lot of information that may not always be accurate or helpful. Here’s a comprehensive guide to help you navigate these psychological barriers and find a path toward overcoming them.
Understanding the Psychological Factors
1. Anxiety and Performance Pressure: One of the most common psychological barriers to achieving an erection is anxiety. This can stem from fear of failure, concerns about sexual performance, or even past experiences. The pressure to perform can create a cycle of anxiety that makes it even harder to achieve an erection.
2. Negative Thoughts and Beliefs: Often, individuals develop negative beliefs about their sexual abilities. These thoughts can be automatic and may include fears of inadequacy or concerns about not being able to satisfy a partner. Recognizing and challenging these thoughts is crucial.
3. Past Experiences: If you have had negative experiences related to sexual performance in the past, these can linger in your mind and affect your current ability to perform. This can create a mental block that needs to be addressed.
Steps to Overcome Psychological Barriers
1. Seek Professional Help: Consulting with a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist, can be incredibly beneficial. They can help you explore the underlying issues contributing to your anxiety and provide strategies to manage it. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for addressing negative thought patterns and anxiety.
2. Open Communication: If you have a partner, discussing your feelings and concerns can alleviate some of the pressure. Open communication can foster intimacy and understanding, which may help reduce anxiety during sexual encounters.
3. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay present and reduce anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga can help you relax and focus on the moment rather than worrying about performance.
4. Gradual Exposure: If you feel comfortable, gradually exposing yourself to sexual situations can help desensitize your anxiety. Start with non-sexual intimacy, such as cuddling or kissing, and gradually work your way up to more intimate activities.
5. Limit Stimulation from Pornography: While it may seem counterintuitive, excessive consumption of pornography can sometimes lead to unrealistic expectations and decreased sensitivity. Consider reducing your consumption to help recalibrate your sexual responses.
6. Physical Health Check: While your concerns are primarily psychological, it’s still a good idea to consult a healthcare provider to rule out any underlying medical conditions that could be contributing to your erectile dysfunction. This could include hormonal imbalances or vascular issues.
7. Focus on Overall Well-being: Engage in regular physical activity, maintain a healthy diet, and ensure you are getting enough sleep. Physical health can significantly impact sexual health, and improving your overall well-being can help alleviate some of the psychological barriers.
Addressing Concerns About Future Sexual Function
It's important to remember that experiencing difficulties with erections does not mean you will always have this issue. Many men go through phases of erectile dysfunction, often linked to stress or anxiety. The fact that you are experiencing morning erections is a positive sign, as it indicates that your body is capable of achieving an erection.
Conclusion
Overcoming psychological barriers to erectile dysfunction is a process that requires patience and self-compassion. It is essential to address both the psychological and physical aspects of the issue. Seeking professional help, practicing relaxation techniques, and fostering open communication with your partner can significantly improve your situation. Remember, you are not alone in this, and many men experience similar challenges. With the right support and strategies, you can regain confidence in your sexual health and well-being.
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