What’s wrong with me... Should I see a doctor?
I really don't know what's wrong.
My relationship with my boyfriend is in such a bad state...
I want to communicate, but I can't find a way to do so.
He always says he doesn't want to talk right now.
I've waited for him again and again, and it's driving me crazy...
When I call him, he doesn't always answer...
I've always had a lack of security, and it's getting worse, but he thinks I'm just throwing a tantrum.
When I cry, he doesn't comfort me...
He says, "Have you cried enough? I don't want to hear you cry..." I went from wanting to solve the problem to feeling completely hopeless...
My life is a mess...
I don't even want to do anything else, I can't focus on my classes, and I easily cry, often shedding tears for no reason...
I'm feeling very discouraged...
I've even had thoughts like, if I could erase my memories, I wouldn't want to know him.
I've considered maybe taking sleeping pills to forget everything...
I've always been prone to overthinking...
I also can't sleep well at night, often waking up suddenly...
Now I'm even less proactive about things...
What should I do? But I can't let go...
I heard that there are medications for depression that can help numb feelings...
Can I go see someone about this?
shang, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/05/20
Dr. Wang Chongren reply Psychiatry
Dear Dr.
Wang Chong-Ren of the Psychiatric Department at Tainan Hospital, Executive Yuan Health Department:
It seems that you are experiencing significant emotional distress.
The feelings of attachment and conflict in your relationships may be sources of stress.
It might be helpful to talk to trusted and rational friends or family members.
If insomnia and depression persist or worsen, you should consider seeking medical attention.
Medication can help alleviate your emotions and assist with sleep, but relationship issues may still require a rational approach on your part.
The Tainan Hospital wishes you good health and all the best!
Reply Date: 2005/05/20
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It sounds like you are going through an incredibly challenging time, and I want to acknowledge the pain and confusion you are feeling. Your description of feeling lost, overwhelmed, and emotionally drained is concerning, and it’s important to take these feelings seriously. Based on what you've shared, it seems like you may be experiencing symptoms that could be associated with depression or anxiety, particularly in the context of your relationship struggles and feelings of insecurity.
Firstly, it’s crucial to understand that seeking help from a mental health professional is a positive step. Many people feel hesitant to reach out for help, often due to stigma or fear of being judged. However, mental health professionals, such as psychologists or psychiatrists, are trained to provide support and guidance in navigating emotional distress. They can help you understand your feelings, develop coping strategies, and explore the underlying issues contributing to your current state.
You mentioned feeling a lack of safety and support in your relationship, which can exacerbate feelings of anxiety and depression. It’s not uncommon for individuals in distressing relationships to feel isolated and misunderstood. Communication is key in any relationship, and it can be particularly painful when you feel your needs are not being met. If your boyfriend is not receptive to your emotional needs, it may be beneficial to discuss this with a therapist, who can help you process these feelings and explore your options.
Regarding your thoughts about wanting to erase memories or considering medication, these are serious feelings that deserve attention. Antidepressants can be effective for some individuals in managing symptoms of depression and anxiety, but they should be prescribed and monitored by a qualified healthcare provider. A mental health professional can evaluate your situation and determine if medication is appropriate for you, as well as discuss potential benefits and side effects.
In addition to professional help, there are several self-care strategies you might consider to help manage your feelings:
1. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can provide an outlet for your emotions and help you process what you are experiencing.
2. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or yoga can help reduce anxiety and improve your overall emotional well-being.
3. Physical Activity: Engaging in regular physical activity, even if it’s just a short walk, can have a positive impact on your mood and energy levels.
4. Social Support: While it may feel difficult, reaching out to friends or family members who can provide support is important. Sometimes, just talking about what you’re going through can help alleviate some of the burden.
5. Establishing Routine: Creating a daily routine can provide structure and a sense of normalcy, which can be comforting during times of emotional upheaval.
6. Limiting Stressors: If possible, try to identify and limit exposure to situations or people that increase your anxiety or sadness.
Remember, you are not alone in this. Many people experience similar feelings, and there is help available. Taking the step to seek professional guidance can be a turning point in your journey toward feeling better. You deserve support and care, and it’s okay to ask for help. Please consider reaching out to a mental health professional who can provide the assistance you need.
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