Doctor, help me... I think I'm not going to make it?
Hello Doctor,
My situation is as follows: I have undergone two surgeries - one for a hernia during elementary school (which I believe is referred to as "堕腸" in Taiwanese) and a circumcision at the age of 22.
Additionally, I have experienced excessive masturbation (almost daily from age 17 until now).
Here is my current condition:
Two years ago, everything was normal.
A year and a half ago, during intercourse, I started to lose my erection halfway through.
A year ago, it became severe to the point where I needed my girlfriend to stimulate me to regain an erection (but it would still go soft halfway through).
A year ago, I was in such a bad state that I required oral stimulation from my girlfriend to maintain an erection (though it would still often go soft halfway through, but not every time).
Now, my situation has worsened:
1.
I have no response to my girlfriend's stimulation, and oral sex only works depending on the situation.
2.
I experience erectile dysfunction, which began a year and a half ago.
Even if I achieve an erection, it quickly goes soft without external stimulation.
I have researched and found that it might be due to an inability to "trap" blood in the erectile tissue, which causes it to go soft when I wear a condom or change positions.
3.
Even when I do achieve an erection, I cannot wear a condom during intercourse because it diminishes sensation, leading to loss of erection.
I would like to ask, Doctor, is this deterioration due to excessive masturbation, or is it a complication from the circumcision? Or could it be due to insufficient male hormone secretion? I want to see a urologist, but I am concerned about having a nurse present.
I am located in Taipei City.
Doctor, I apologize for not mentioning a few points earlier:
1.
My physiological condition was quite normal before; by "normal," I mean I would often have spontaneous erections, such as during meetings or while driving, and they would last for a long time.
2.
Mornings were also normal, but they have started to become irregular over the past two weeks.
3.
I am not asexual; to be honest, I still have a strong sex drive and often want to engage in sexual activity, but now I find myself unable to follow through.
Doctor, I truly appreciate your help.
cyp, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/07/24
Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology
CYP: Hello, actually, a significant portion of erectile dysfunction issues stem from psychological factors.
I suggest you relax a bit and adjust your lifestyle before engaging in sexual activities again.
This should help improve the situation.
Based on your description, it seems possible that there may be a venous leak in the blood vessels, which might require further examination and analysis.
Taipei, being the capital city, has access to all kinds of medical equipment.
I recommend visiting National Taiwan University Hospital to consult with Dr.
Liu Shih-Pin for a more accurate diagnosis.
The nurses there are very friendly and experienced.
If you feel really shy, you can request a private setting.
Urology Department Director, Dr.
Hsu Wei-Kai, responds on behalf of the Taitung Hospital of the Department of Health, Executive Yuan, and expresses concern for you.
Reply Date: 2005/07/24
More Info
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a complex condition that can arise from a variety of physical and psychological factors. Based on the information you've provided, it seems that your situation may involve multiple contributing factors, including potential psychological influences, physical health issues, and possibly the effects of previous surgeries.
Understanding the Causes of Erectile Dysfunction
1. Psychological Factors: Anxiety, stress, and depression can significantly impact sexual performance. The pressure to perform, especially if you've experienced difficulties in the past, can create a cycle of anxiety that exacerbates the problem. It’s common for men to become anxious about their ability to maintain an erection, which can lead to further difficulties.
2. Physical Health Issues: Conditions such as diabetes, hypertension, and hormonal imbalances can affect blood flow and nerve function, both of which are crucial for achieving and maintaining an erection. Given your history of surgeries and the mention of excessive masturbation, it’s possible that there may be some physical factors at play as well.
3. Hormonal Factors: Testosterone levels play a significant role in sexual function. If there is a deficiency in testosterone, it can lead to decreased libido and erectile difficulties. A simple blood test can determine your testosterone levels, and if they are low, your doctor can discuss potential treatment options.
4. Impact of Previous Surgeries: Surgeries, particularly those involving the genital area, can sometimes lead to nerve damage or changes in blood flow, which may contribute to erectile dysfunction. The circumcision you mentioned could potentially have an impact on sensitivity, although this varies widely among individuals.
5. Over-Masturbation: While masturbation is a normal sexual activity, excessive masturbation can lead to temporary desensitization or decreased sexual arousal. This can create a cycle where the body becomes accustomed to a certain type of stimulation, making it more difficult to achieve arousal through other means.
Solutions and Recommendations
1. Consult a Urologist: It’s essential to consult a urologist who specializes in sexual health. They can perform a thorough evaluation, including physical examinations and possibly blood tests, to identify any underlying conditions that may be contributing to your erectile dysfunction.
2. Therapy: If psychological factors are at play, consider speaking with a therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual health. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be particularly effective in addressing anxiety and performance issues.
3. Lifestyle Changes: Incorporating regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep can improve overall health and potentially enhance sexual function. Reducing alcohol consumption and quitting smoking (if applicable) can also have positive effects.
4. Medication: If appropriate, your doctor may prescribe medications such as phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitors (e.g., Viagra, Cialis) to help improve erectile function. These medications work by increasing blood flow to the penis and can be effective in many cases.
5. Addressing Hormonal Issues: If tests reveal low testosterone levels, hormone replacement therapy may be an option to consider.
6. Communication with Partner: Open communication with your partner about your experiences and feelings can help reduce anxiety and improve intimacy. This can also help you both explore alternative ways to achieve sexual satisfaction that may not solely rely on penetration.
Conclusion
Erectile dysfunction can be a challenging issue, but it is important to remember that it is a common condition and can often be treated effectively. By addressing both the physical and psychological aspects of your situation, you can work towards regaining your sexual health. Don’t hesitate to seek professional help, as this is a crucial step in understanding and overcoming your difficulties.
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