Erection Issues in Young Men: Causes and Solutions - Urology

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Hello, doctor.
I'm a twenty-year-old young man and I'm still a virgin.
Now that I have a girlfriend (who is also a virgin), we've tried to have intercourse several times, but every time, while the foreplay might get me sufficiently erect, I find that I can't maintain my erection when it's time to penetrate.
This has been happening for two to three months.
The last time, during a typhoon, when she stayed over at my house, we decided to drink some alcohol, and in the middle of the night, I was able to penetrate successfully (there was also one time when I just woke up and it went in quite smoothly).
However, she said it was very painful, so we didn't finish, and the next time, I had trouble again.
I want to ask if this is considered erectile dysfunction? Or could it be related to the fact that I've been masturbating frequently during puberty? What methods can I use to improve this situation?

Wei Lao Xian Shuai De Shao Nian, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/09/05

Dr. Chen Zhirong reply Urology


Confused young man: When you first experience forbidden fruit, you may feel both anticipation and fear of being hurt.
The psychological and physiological aspects can clash, especially if you are naturally more sensitive and prone to anxiety, leading to an unstable state.
However, as you become more skilled over time, you should be able to achieve stability.
Just remember to avoid excessive indulgence.
- Chen Zhi-Rong

Reply Date: 2005/09/05

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Erection issues in young men, especially those in their late teens and early twenties, can be a source of significant anxiety and concern. It is important to understand that experiencing difficulties with erections, particularly in the context of new relationships and sexual experiences, is quite common and can be influenced by a variety of factors.

Firstly, it is essential to differentiate between occasional erection difficulties and a more persistent condition known as erectile dysfunction (ED). In your case, it seems that the issues arise primarily during intimate moments with your girlfriend, which may suggest that psychological factors, rather than purely physiological ones, are at play. Performance anxiety, stress, and the pressure to perform can significantly impact a young man's ability to maintain an erection. The fear of not being able to perform can create a cycle of anxiety that further exacerbates the problem.

Moreover, the fact that you have had successful experiences in certain contexts (like after drinking alcohol or just waking up) indicates that your body is capable of achieving an erection, but perhaps the circumstances surrounding intimacy with your girlfriend are creating a mental block. Alcohol can lower inhibitions and reduce anxiety, which may explain why you found it easier to achieve an erection in that situation. However, relying on alcohol is not a sustainable solution and can lead to other issues in the long run.

Another factor to consider is the frequency of masturbation. While masturbation is a normal and healthy part of sexual development, excessive masturbation can sometimes lead to temporary changes in sexual performance. If you find that you are frequently engaging in this behavior, it might be worth evaluating how it affects your sexual experiences with your girlfriend.

To address these issues, here are some strategies you might consider:
1. Open Communication: Talk openly with your girlfriend about your experiences and feelings. This can help reduce anxiety and create a more relaxed atmosphere during intimate moments. Understanding that both of you are navigating new experiences together can alleviate some pressure.

2. Focus on Foreplay: Instead of concentrating solely on penetration, focus on building intimacy through foreplay. This can help both of you feel more comfortable and connected, reducing performance pressure.

3. Relaxation Techniques: Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or mindfulness before engaging in sexual activity. This can help calm nerves and reduce anxiety.

4. Limit Alcohol Consumption: While a small amount of alcohol may help reduce anxiety, excessive drinking can impair sexual function. Try to find a balance that allows you to feel relaxed without overindulging.

5. Seek Professional Help: If these issues persist and continue to cause distress, consider speaking with a healthcare professional or a therapist who specializes in sexual health. They can provide tailored advice and support, helping you address any underlying psychological factors.

6. Educate Yourself: Understanding sexual health and function can empower you and reduce anxiety. There are many resources available that can provide information on sexual anatomy, arousal, and techniques to enhance sexual experiences.

In summary, experiencing erection difficulties is common among young men, especially in new relationships. It is often linked to psychological factors such as anxiety and stress rather than purely physical issues. By fostering open communication with your partner, focusing on relaxation, and seeking professional guidance if necessary, you can work towards overcoming these challenges and enhancing your sexual experiences. Remember, sexual health is an important aspect of overall well-being, and addressing these concerns is a positive step towards a fulfilling intimate life.

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