Sexual dysfunction issues
I have had a habit of masturbation since middle school, and before I had a girlfriend, it was common for me to masturbate several times a day.
Recently, my girlfriend has complained that I don't last long enough during sex, often ejaculating after just a few thrusts.
I also feel that I am too small.
However, I notice that the more times we have sex in one night, the longer I can last.
I remember one night when we had sex four times, and I was able to last longer each time, but it also took me longer to achieve an erection, and I find it harder to get aroused.
Is this a sign of sexual dysfunction? I often feel like I am experiencing premature ejaculation and that I am indeed too small.
My girlfriend has had sexual experiences with other boyfriends who were bigger and lasted longer, which makes me feel discouraged and helpless.
I want to seek help from a doctor but don't know how to approach the topic; it's quite difficult to discuss.
Which specialist should I see for a thorough examination? Additionally, I would like to ask about my glans.
Is it normal for the glans to be covered by the foreskin when not erect, or should it be exposed? My glans is usually covered, only showing a little bit, and it only fully exposes when erect.
However, when it becomes flaccid, the foreskin often gets stuck at the tip of the glans, and it is difficult for it to return to its covered state without manual assistance.
What is considered normal in this situation?
Wunai, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2005/12/21
Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology
Hello, regarding your question, I believe it should be addressed from several aspects:
1.
Penis size: Generally speaking, the penis is long enough for the vagina, and cases of inadequacy are rare.
Most of the time, it may feel inadequate due to poor coordination or positioning during intercourse.
2.
Duration: This also depends on the cooperation between both partners.
If the female partner requires more time to reach satisfaction, the male partner should try to accommodate that.
If it's not possible to last that long, other methods can be employed, such as extending foreplay or using supplementary sexual aids.
3.
Foreskin length: Based on your description, it seems to be normal.
Whether surgery is necessary can only be determined through a physical examination.
4.
If you need sexual function consultation, you can visit a large hospital nearby that has a specialized sexual function clinic, which will have better facilities for examination, diagnosis, and treatment.
Sincerely,
Dr.
Hsu Wei-Kai, Director of Urology, Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan.
Reply Date: 2005/12/21
More Info
It sounds like you are experiencing a combination of concerns related to sexual function, including premature ejaculation and issues with your anatomy. These are common issues that many men face, and it's important to understand that you are not alone in this. Let's break down your concerns and provide some insights.
Premature Ejaculation (PE) is defined as ejaculation that occurs with minimal sexual stimulation before, during, or shortly after penetration, and it can lead to distress for both partners. The fact that you notice a difference in your endurance when you have multiple sexual encounters in one night suggests that your body may respond differently under varying conditions. This is not uncommon; many men find that they can last longer after multiple rounds of intercourse due to increased arousal and familiarity with their partner.
Your feelings of inadequacy, especially in comparison to your girlfriend's previous partners, are understandable but can be misleading. Sexual performance is not solely defined by duration; intimacy, connection, and mutual satisfaction play significant roles in a fulfilling sexual relationship. If you feel that your ejaculation is too quick and it bothers you or your partner, there are various strategies and treatments available. Behavioral techniques, such as the "stop-start" method or the "squeeze" technique, can help you gain better control over your ejaculation. Additionally, there are topical anesthetics and medications that can be prescribed to help manage PE.
Regarding your concerns about the size of your penis, it's important to note that penis size varies widely among individuals, and many men worry about this aspect unnecessarily. If you are concerned about your size affecting your sexual performance or your partner's satisfaction, discussing this with a healthcare professional can provide reassurance and guidance.
As for the anatomical concerns you mentioned, it is normal for the glans (the head of the penis) to be covered by the foreskin when not erect, especially if you are uncircumcised. However, if you are experiencing difficulty with the foreskin retracting or if it gets stuck, this could indicate a condition known as phimosis, where the foreskin cannot be easily retracted over the glans. This is something that can be evaluated by a urologist, who specializes in male reproductive health.
To address your concerns effectively, I recommend scheduling an appointment with a urologist. They can provide a thorough examination and discuss your symptoms in detail. It’s understandable to feel hesitant about discussing these topics, but healthcare professionals are trained to handle such matters sensitively and confidentially. You can start the conversation by simply stating that you have concerns about your sexual health and would like to explore potential solutions.
In summary, your experiences with premature ejaculation and anatomical concerns are valid and can be addressed through professional guidance. Remember, sexual health is an important aspect of overall well-being, and seeking help is a proactive step towards improving your sexual experiences and relationships. Don't hesitate to reach out to a healthcare provider who can assist you in navigating these challenges.
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