Penis Size Concerns: A Guide for Young Men

Uncle's penis

I'm 20 years old, and I feel that my penis is smaller compared to my peers.
Every time I'm in the locker room, I hesitate to change into my swim trunks for fear of being laughed at by my classmates.
I once took a shower with my dad and noticed that his size was not small.
Why do I feel this way? (My penis is 8 cm when erect and 2 cm when flaccid.) This year during the Lunar New Year, my family and I went to Wulai to soak in hot springs with my uncle.
I was hesitant to take off my underwear until I saw my uncle's penis (he's 36 years old, has an average build, and his erect size is about 9 cm and flaccid is 2 cm), which is similar to mine.
I told my uncle about my experiences at school, and he said he went through the same thing.
He mentioned that he has been married for six years and has children.
There was a classmate who had an erect size of 17 cm and a flaccid size of 8 cm, and everyone envied him.
Now, he is struggling to conceive and is seeking medical help.
However, my uncle advised me to see a doctor because he said that at his age, he was told by a doctor that he couldn't do anything without surgery.
He also mentioned that while size may not be important, there are times, like swimming or soaking in hot springs, when comments are made.
So, he urged me to consult a doctor.
Is there still a chance for treatment for someone like me? I'm 20 years old and have not had sexual experiences, but I have engaged in masturbation and experienced nocturnal emissions.
If treatment is possible, please provide me with detailed information as I want to seek treatment quickly.
Thank you, Dr.
Liu.

Xiao Feng, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2006/02/02

Dr. Liu Jianting reply Urology

No problem! Don't panic! I suggest you read some books like "About Sex" (published by Tianxia) and "The Love of Little Brother."

Reply Date: 2006/02/02

More Info

It's completely normal for young men to have concerns about their penis size, especially during the formative years of adolescence and early adulthood. Many individuals experience feelings of insecurity when comparing themselves to peers, and it's important to understand that penis size varies widely among individuals, and there is no "normal" size that everyone should aspire to.
First, let's address the concerns about penis size. Research indicates that the average erect penis size is approximately 5.1 to 5.5 inches (about 13 to 14 cm) in length, while the average flaccid size is around 3.6 inches (about 9.16 cm). Your reported sizes of 2 inches when flaccid and 8 inches when erect fall within the range of normal variation, though they may feel smaller compared to some peers. It's crucial to remember that penis size does not determine one's worth or ability to engage in healthy relationships.
Your feelings of embarrassment in locker rooms or communal settings are common among young men. Many individuals share similar insecurities, and it's vital to recognize that everyone has their own unique body. The emphasis on size in media and culture can exacerbate these feelings, but it's essential to focus on self-acceptance and body positivity.
Regarding your uncle's advice to see a doctor, it is wise to consult a healthcare professional if you have concerns about your penis size or any related issues. A urologist can provide a thorough evaluation and address any medical concerns you may have. They can also discuss potential treatments if necessary. However, it's important to note that surgical interventions for penis enlargement are typically reserved for specific medical conditions and are not commonly recommended for cosmetic reasons due to the risks involved.

In terms of sexual health, it's also worth noting that sexual experiences and satisfaction are not solely dependent on size. Factors such as emotional connection, communication, and mutual respect play a significant role in sexual relationships. Many individuals find that confidence and intimacy are far more important than physical attributes.

If you are considering medical intervention, it is crucial to have realistic expectations. Many procedures come with risks and potential complications, and the results may not always meet one's desires. Therefore, a thorough discussion with a qualified healthcare provider is essential to understand the options available and their implications.

Additionally, if you are experiencing anxiety or distress related to your body image or sexual health, consider speaking with a mental health professional. They can provide support and strategies to help you cope with these feelings and improve your self-esteem.

In summary, while concerns about penis size are common among young men, it's essential to focus on self-acceptance and seek professional advice if you have specific worries. Remember that size does not define your value or ability to form meaningful relationships. Emphasizing overall health, confidence, and emotional connection will serve you better in the long run than focusing solely on physical attributes.

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