Experiencing erectile dysfunction during intercourse?
Hello doctor, I have a question that has been bothering me for a long time.
When I have intercourse with my girlfriend, I often find that I lose my erection halfway through (I have had intercourse less than 20 times so far).
She is also a first-timer.
I wonder if watching too much pornography has led to this issue, as I start off very excited but after a few thrusts, I either want to ejaculate or I lose my erection.
This makes me feel a lot of pressure during intercourse.
I would like to ask if it is normal for men to lose their erection during the thrusting process while having sex? Or could it be that watching too much pornography has caused my experience to differ from my expectations, leading to this issue? Or is it because I am overly concerned about my performance and duration during intercourse?
xiang tai duo de nan sheng, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2006/08/02
Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology
For men who overthink: If you suddenly experience erectile dysfunction during intercourse, it could be due to a lack of experience or issues such as venous leakage.
It would be best to get checked to better understand the cause, as treatment options can vary significantly.
This is a response from Dr.
Hsu Wei-Kai, Director of Urology at Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan.
Reply Date: 2006/08/02
More Info
Erectile dysfunction (ED) during intercourse is a common issue that many men experience, especially in the early stages of their sexual lives. It can be caused by a variety of factors, both psychological and physiological. Let's explore some of the potential reasons for your situation and provide some insights into how to address it.
1. Psychological Factors: Anxiety and pressure to perform can significantly affect erectile function. If you are overly concerned about your performance, the duration of intercourse, or how your partner perceives you, this can lead to stress that interferes with your ability to maintain an erection. This is particularly common in men who are new to sexual experiences. The fear of failure can create a cycle of anxiety that makes it even more difficult to achieve or maintain an erection.
2. Influence of Pornography: Watching pornography can create unrealistic expectations about sex. Adult films often depict exaggerated scenarios that do not reflect real-life sexual experiences. This can lead to a disconnect between what you expect during intercourse and what actually occurs. If you find yourself comparing your experiences to those seen in pornography, it may contribute to feelings of inadequacy or performance anxiety, which can result in erectile difficulties.
3. Physical Factors: While you mentioned that you are relatively new to sexual activity, it's important to consider that physical factors can also play a role. Fatigue, alcohol consumption, and overall health can impact erectile function. If you are tired or have consumed alcohol, this can affect your ability to maintain an erection. Additionally, certain medical conditions, such as diabetes or hormonal imbalances, can contribute to erectile dysfunction.
4. Communication with Your Partner: Open communication with your partner about your feelings and experiences can help alleviate some of the pressure you may be feeling. Discussing your concerns can foster a supportive environment where both partners feel comfortable. This can reduce anxiety and improve your overall sexual experience.
5. Relaxation Techniques: Practicing relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing or mindfulness, can help reduce anxiety and improve your ability to focus on the moment rather than worrying about performance. Engaging in foreplay and taking your time can also help ease the pressure and enhance arousal.
6. Seeking Professional Help: If this issue persists, consider speaking with a healthcare professional or a therapist who specializes in sexual health. They can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific situation. Sometimes, underlying psychological issues may require professional intervention to resolve.
In summary, experiencing erectile difficulties during intercourse is not uncommon, especially for those who are new to sexual experiences. Factors such as anxiety, unrealistic expectations from pornography, and physical health can all contribute to this issue. By addressing these factors through communication, relaxation techniques, and potentially seeking professional help, you can work towards improving your sexual experiences and reducing the pressure you feel. Remember, sexual health is an important aspect of overall well-being, and it's perfectly okay to seek help when needed.
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