Common Urology Questions About My Boyfriend's Health

Regarding my boyfriend's issue?

Hello Doctor: I would like to ask what the average length and girth of an erect penis is for men.
Is it normal for a condom to not fit all the way down when putting it on? Why do men feel very tired after ejaculation? How many days apart and how many times a day is manageable for my boyfriend regarding sexual activity? Thank you, Doctor.

m, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2009/02/22

Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology

Hello, condoms come in various sizes due to brand differences.
Generally, European and American brands tend to be larger, while Taiwanese and Japanese brands are smaller, making them more suitable for individuals with smaller body types.
The length of an erect penis can be calculated using a complex formula: According to Dr.
Chien Bang-Ping, a urologist at Kaohsiung Veterans General Hospital, the formula for calculating the erect length of a Taiwanese man's penis is as follows: take the height in centimeters, multiply it by 0.06, add 7.41, and then multiply the resulting value by 0.65.
This gives the total length of the penis that is exposed when erect.
Feeling tired after ejaculation is related to a decrease in autonomic nervous system arousal.
Regarding sexual activity, it doesn't matter how many times a week or day it occurs; the focus should be on quality.
After a high-quality sexual encounter, there may be a period of disinterest.
If each encounter is rushed, even having sex seven times in one night may not bring much satisfaction.
Of course, if both partners feel comfortable and not fatigued after engaging in sexual activity ten times a day, that is acceptable.
However, if the encounters lack quality, it will not lead to a fulfilling experience.
This perspective is from Western medicine, but Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) has its own views on sexual activity, suggesting that excessive frequency within a month can be harmful to the body.
Those interested can consult a TCM practitioner for advice.
If there are any unclear points, feel free to ask again for further discussion and research.

Sincerely,
Dr.
Hsu Wei-Kai
Director, Urology Department
Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan

Reply Date: 2009/02/22

More Info

When it comes to understanding male sexual health and addressing common concerns, it's essential to approach the topic with both sensitivity and factual knowledge. Here are some insights regarding your questions about your boyfriend's health and sexual function.

Average Size of an Erect Penis
The average size of an erect penis varies among individuals, but studies suggest that the average length is approximately 5 to 6 inches (12.7 to 15.24 cm) and the average circumference (girth) is about 4.5 to 5 inches (11.43 to 12.7 cm). It's important to remember that there is a wide range of normal sizes, and individual variation is completely normal. If the condom does not fit properly, it may be due to the size or the type of condom being used. There are different sizes and styles of condoms available, including larger sizes that may provide a better fit.

Condom Usage
If you find that the condom does not roll down completely, it could be an indication that the condom is too small. It's crucial to use a condom that fits well to ensure both safety and comfort. A condom that is too tight can break, while one that is too loose may slip off. If you're consistently having issues with condom fit, consider exploring different brands or sizes to find one that works better for both of you.

Post-Ejaculation Fatigue
Feeling tired after ejaculation is a common experience for many men. This fatigue can be attributed to several factors, including the physical exertion involved in sexual activity, hormonal changes, and the release of neurotransmitters like prolactin, which can induce feelings of relaxation and fatigue. It's a normal response, and the degree of tiredness can vary from person to person.

Frequency of Sexual Activity
Regarding how often your boyfriend can engage in sexual activity, this varies widely among individuals and depends on several factors, including age, physical health, emotional state, and personal libido. Generally, many men can comfortably engage in sexual activity several times a week, while others may prefer less frequent encounters. It's essential to communicate openly with your boyfriend about his comfort levels and preferences. If he feels fatigued or overwhelmed, it may be beneficial to space out sexual activities to allow for recovery and maintain a healthy balance.

Conclusion
In summary, understanding your boyfriend's health and sexual function involves recognizing the normal variations in size, the importance of proper condom fit, the physiological responses following ejaculation, and the need for open communication about sexual frequency. If you have ongoing concerns about his health or sexual function, it may be helpful for him to consult a healthcare professional, such as a urologist, who can provide personalized advice and support. Remember, maintaining a healthy sexual relationship is about mutual understanding, respect, and communication.

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