the Impact of Ejaculation Timing on Sexual Performance

The difference in ejaculation time between two types of masturbation?

Hello Dr.
Hsu, I would like to ask about the timing of ejaculation during masturbation.

==Situation 1== While watching adult videos, I think about reaching climax quickly, and I also control the muscles of my penis and lower abdomen to contract and pull in, allowing myself to ejaculate sooner, usually within 2 minutes.

==Situation 2== When I am completely relaxed and do not control the contraction of the glans/penile muscles, I just empty my mind, and the ejaculation time can extend to over 20-30 minutes.

I have two questions:
Q1: If I frequently engage in the quick ejaculation masturbation mode of "Situation 1," where I control the contraction of the penis and lower abdominal muscles to ejaculate quickly, will this affect my actual sexual performance in the future, making it difficult to last longer? Or is it fine to ejaculate quickly during masturbation, and as long as I return to the "Situation 2" relaxed mode during actual intercourse, I can still last long?
Q2: If I want to train for longer sexual duration, is it better to use the "Situation 2" relaxed mode for masturbation regularly?
Thank you for taking the time to answer, Dr.
Hsu.

epson, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2010/02/18

Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology

Hello, actually, the hardness of an erection varies for each person and with each instance.
This means that the level of arousal is not the same every time, which also affects the circumstances of ejaculation.
Many people believe that the duration of an erection is the most significant factor in determining the satisfaction of sexual life.
In reality, sexual life can be simply described as whether the feelings during intercourse are appropriate for both partners.
It involves both physiological and psychological factors.
Actual sexual activity can be of one type or the other, depending on the emotional adjustment and experience of both parties.
As for which type is better, it should be coordinated between both partners; as long as both are satisfied, that is what matters.

Reply Date: 2010/02/18

More Info

Understanding the impact of ejaculation timing on sexual performance is a nuanced topic that intertwines both physiological and psychological factors. Your inquiry about the differences between two distinct scenarios of masturbation—one where you consciously attempt to ejaculate quickly while watching adult content, and another where you allow yourself to relax and take your time—raises important questions about how these practices may influence your sexual performance during partnered intercourse.

Q1: Does frequent quick ejaculation during masturbation affect sexual performance?
Engaging in rapid ejaculation techniques, as described in your "情形1" (Scenario 1), can indeed have implications for your sexual performance during actual intercourse. When you consistently practice quick ejaculation, you may condition your body and mind to expect and respond to rapid stimulation. This could lead to a few potential outcomes:
1. Psychological Conditioning: If you frequently associate sexual arousal with quick ejaculation, you may find it challenging to adjust your mindset during partnered sex. The expectation of quick climax can create performance anxiety, which may further exacerbate difficulties in maintaining arousal and delaying ejaculation.

2. Physiological Adaptation: Your body can adapt to the patterns of stimulation it regularly experiences. If you train your body to respond quickly, it may become more challenging to achieve the same level of arousal and control during longer sexual encounters. However, this does not mean that you cannot revert to a more relaxed state during intercourse. The key lies in your ability to manage your arousal levels and mental state.

3. Recovery and Flexibility: It is possible to regain the ability to last longer during sex by consciously practicing relaxation techniques and focusing on the sensations rather than the outcome. If you can transition to your "情形2" (Scenario 2) mindset during intercourse, you may find that you can maintain longer durations.

Q2: Is it beneficial to practice the "放空模式" (relaxed mode) during masturbation for longer lasting performance?
Yes, practicing the "放空模式" during masturbation can be beneficial for training your body and mind to last longer during sexual encounters. Here’s why:
1. Arousal Control: By allowing yourself to relax and not rush to ejaculation, you can develop better control over your arousal levels. This practice can help you become more attuned to your body’s responses and learn to recognize the sensations leading up to ejaculation, enabling you to delay it when desired.

2. Reducing Performance Anxiety: Engaging in a relaxed state during masturbation can help reduce the pressure you may feel during actual sexual encounters. This can lead to a more enjoyable experience, as you are less likely to be preoccupied with the fear of premature ejaculation.

3. Building Stamina: Regularly practicing longer sessions of masturbation in a relaxed state can help build stamina and endurance. Over time, this can translate into improved performance during partnered sex, as you become accustomed to longer durations of arousal without the immediate need to climax.

Conclusion
In summary, the way you approach masturbation can significantly influence your sexual performance. While quick ejaculation techniques may provide immediate gratification, they can also condition your body and mind in ways that may not be conducive to longer-lasting sexual encounters. By incorporating relaxation techniques and focusing on the sensations rather than the outcome, you can enhance your ability to maintain arousal and prolong sexual activity.
If you find that these issues persist or cause significant concern, consider consulting a healthcare professional or a sex therapist who can provide personalized guidance and support tailored to your needs. Remember, sexual performance is a complex interplay of physical, psychological, and relational factors, and understanding your own body is key to achieving a fulfilling sexual experience.

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