Is Premature Ejaculation a Concern? Urological Issues - Urology

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Hello Dr.
Hsu,
I currently have a steady girlfriend, and although we have not engaged in sexual intercourse yet, we sometimes sit facing each other and rub our lower bodies.
However, recently I find myself unable to control my ejaculation during these moments.
Could this be a concern for premature ejaculation? This phenomenon has not occurred before, and I wonder if it is related to the long hours I spend sitting in front of the computer while writing my thesis.
Is there any way to improve this situation? Thank you!

Niming, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2012/04/22

Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology


Anonymous: Hello, you are overthinking it.
Such ejaculation is completely normal.
As for whether there is premature ejaculation, it cannot be determined.
Additionally, the duration of sexual intercourse is related to both partners' experience and coordination.
If there are any unclear points, feel free to ask again, and we can discuss and research further.
Answers found online should only serve as a reference; if necessary, it is important to seek medical attention at a healthcare facility.
This response is provided by Dr.
Hsu Wei-kai, Director of the Urology Department, Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan.

Reply Date: 2012/04/22

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Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common concern among men and can significantly impact sexual relationships and overall quality of life. It is defined as the inability to delay ejaculation during sexual activity, leading to distress for one or both partners. While it is normal for men to experience varying degrees of control over ejaculation, recurrent episodes of premature ejaculation can indicate a more significant issue.

In your case, experiencing ejaculation during intimate activities, such as grinding or rubbing, may suggest that you are facing challenges with ejaculatory control. This can be particularly concerning if it is a new development, as you mentioned. Factors contributing to premature ejaculation can include psychological elements, such as anxiety or stress, particularly if you are under pressure, such as writing a thesis or spending long hours at the computer. Physical factors, including hormonal imbalances or neurological conditions, can also play a role.

It's important to note that occasional instances of premature ejaculation are common and may not necessarily indicate a chronic problem. However, if this is a recurring issue that causes you distress or affects your relationship, it may be worth exploring further.

Here are some strategies that may help improve ejaculatory control:
1. Behavioral Techniques: Techniques such as the "stop-start" method or the "squeeze" technique can help you gain better control over ejaculation. The stop-start method involves pausing stimulation before ejaculation and resuming once the urge has decreased. The squeeze technique involves squeezing the base of the penis to reduce the urge to ejaculate.

2. Pelvic Floor Exercises: Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles through Kegel exercises can enhance control over ejaculation. These exercises involve repeatedly contracting and relaxing the muscles used to stop urination.

3. Desensitizing Products: Over-the-counter creams or sprays that contain numbing agents can reduce sensitivity and help delay ejaculation. However, it's essential to use these products carefully and follow the instructions.

4. Communication with Your Partner: Open communication with your partner about your concerns can help alleviate anxiety and create a supportive environment. Discussing preferences and comfort levels can enhance intimacy and reduce performance pressure.

5. Professional Help: If the issue persists, consider consulting a urologist or a sexual health specialist. They can provide a thorough evaluation and discuss potential treatment options, which may include therapy, medications, or other interventions.

6. Lifestyle Modifications: Reducing stress through relaxation techniques, regular exercise, and a healthy diet can improve overall sexual health. Limiting alcohol and avoiding recreational drugs can also be beneficial.

In summary, while premature ejaculation can be a concern, it is often manageable with the right strategies and support. If your experiences continue to cause distress or interfere with your relationship, seeking professional guidance can provide you with tailored solutions and reassurance. Remember, you are not alone in this, and many men face similar challenges.

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