Ejaculation Issues: Is It Mental or Physical? - Urology

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Do I have a problem like this?


I usually have a habit of watching adult films, but I can still control myself.
However, when I try to engage in DIY activities, I just can't reach ejaculation.
I've looked up many methods online, but nothing seems to work; I only feel very excited and close to climax.
Is this a psychological issue, or do I not understand myself well enough? I have no problems with erections, and I regularly clean my foreskin.

KK, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2013/08/29

Dr. Xu Weikai reply Urology


KK: Hello, it seems to be a matter of technique.
In other words, it is caused by insufficient stimulation.
If there are any unclear points, feel free to ask again, and we can further discuss and research.
Answers found online should only serve as a reference; if necessary, it is important to seek medical attention at a healthcare facility.
This response is from Dr.
Hsu Wei-Kai, Director of the Urology Department at Taitung Hospital, Department of Health, Executive Yuan, who cares about you.

Reply Date: 2013/08/29

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Ejaculation issues can be a complex topic, often involving both psychological and physiological factors. Based on your description, it seems that you are experiencing difficulty achieving ejaculation during self-stimulation, despite having no issues with erection or other aspects of sexual function. This can be frustrating and may lead you to question whether the problem is mental or physical.

Firstly, it's important to understand that sexual arousal and ejaculation are influenced by a variety of factors, including psychological state, physical health, and even situational context. In your case, since you mentioned that you can achieve an erection but struggle with ejaculation, it may suggest that there are psychological components at play.

Psychological Factors
1. Anxiety and Performance Pressure: Anxiety is a common issue that can affect sexual performance. If you are feeling pressure to perform or are anxious about the outcome, this can inhibit your ability to ejaculate. This is sometimes referred to as "performance anxiety," where the fear of not being able to perform as expected can create a cycle of stress that further complicates the situation.

2. Mental Focus: Sometimes, being overly focused on the act of ejaculation can create a mental block. Instead of allowing yourself to enjoy the experience, you may be concentrating too hard on the end goal, which can prevent you from reaching it.

3. Past Experiences: Previous experiences, whether positive or negative, can shape your current sexual responses. If you have had experiences where you felt pressure or embarrassment, these memories can resurface and affect your current performance.

4. Expectations and Comparisons: Watching pornography can create unrealistic expectations about sexual performance and outcomes. If you find yourself comparing your experiences to what you see in adult films, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy or frustration, which can further complicate your ability to ejaculate.


Physical Factors
While you mentioned that you have no issues with erections and maintain proper hygiene, there are still some physical aspects to consider:
1. Hormonal Levels: Testosterone levels play a significant role in sexual function. If there are any hormonal imbalances, they could potentially affect your ejaculation.

2. Nerve Function: The process of ejaculation is controlled by a complex interaction of nerves. If there is any disruption in this pathway, it could lead to difficulties in ejaculation.

3. Medications: Certain medications, particularly antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs, can have side effects that include delayed ejaculation or anorgasmia (the inability to achieve orgasm).


Recommendations
1. Self-Reflection: Take some time to reflect on your feelings and thoughts surrounding your sexual experiences. Are there any anxieties or pressures that you can identify? Understanding your mental state can be the first step in addressing the issue.

2. Relaxation Techniques: Engage in relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness, or meditation. Reducing overall anxiety can help improve sexual performance.

3. Consult a Professional: If the issue persists, consider speaking with a healthcare professional or a sex therapist. They can provide tailored advice and support, helping you explore both the psychological and physical aspects of your situation.

4. Limit Pornography: If you find that pornography is affecting your expectations or performance, consider reducing your consumption. This can help you develop a healthier perspective on sexual experiences.

5. Open Communication: If you are in a relationship, communicate openly with your partner about your experiences. This can help alleviate pressure and create a supportive environment.

In conclusion, ejaculation issues can stem from a combination of psychological and physical factors. By exploring these aspects and seeking professional guidance, you can work towards a better understanding of your body and improve your sexual experiences. Remember, sexual health is an important part of overall well-being, and addressing these concerns is a positive step forward.

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