I have a family member with a mental illness?
I have a high school freshman at home who is very stubborn and does not listen to what others say, becoming increasingly defiant.
Additionally, he seems to exhibit signs of paranoia, as he is afraid to use anything that others have touched.
He often skips meals and only drinks tap water.
Whenever his parents try to talk to him, he always responds loudly and argues back.
Also, doctor, you know what "spirit possession" is, right? Every time he comes out of his room or the bathroom, he bangs into the door and shakes his head for five to ten minutes, behaving quite erratically.
He also refuses to go to the hospital.
How should we handle this situation?
At sign, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2015/11/25
Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry
Hello, based on your description, he indeed exhibits psychiatric symptoms and requires evaluation and treatment, but he lacks insight into his condition.
It is advisable to persuade him to seek medical attention using reasons he can accept, such as insomnia, headaches, dizziness, etc.
If the patient shows strong resistance, you may wait until his emotions stabilize before encouraging him again.
If there are any signs of self-harm or harm to others, you can request assistance from a health center for a mandatory evaluation and treatment.
Reply Date: 2015/11/25
More Info
Coping with a family member's mental health challenges can be incredibly difficult, especially when the individual exhibits behaviors that are concerning or disruptive. In your case, it sounds like your family member is displaying signs of significant mental distress, including stubbornness, possible paranoia, disordered eating habits, and erratic behaviors. Here are some strategies to consider when dealing with such a situation:
Understanding the Situation
Firstly, it’s essential to recognize that mental health issues can manifest in various ways, and the behaviors you describe may indicate underlying psychological problems. The refusal to eat properly, the paranoid tendencies, and the aggressive responses to family members suggest that this individual may be experiencing severe anxiety or a more complex mental health disorder. It’s crucial to approach the situation with empathy and understanding, as these behaviors are often rooted in fear, confusion, or distress.
Open Communication
While it may be challenging, try to maintain open lines of communication with your family member. Avoid confrontational language, and instead, express your concern in a non-judgmental way. For example, you might say, “I’ve noticed you seem really stressed lately, and I’m here to help if you want to talk about it.” This approach can help create a safe space for them to express their feelings without feeling attacked or misunderstood.
Encourage Professional Help
Encouraging your family member to seek professional help is vital. However, given their resistance to medical intervention, this may require a gentle approach. You could suggest that they speak with a counselor or therapist, framing it as a way to gain support rather than as a treatment for a problem. You might say, “Talking to someone who understands what you’re going through can really help. It’s just like having a coach for your mind.”
Involve Other Family Members
If possible, involve other family members in the conversation. Sometimes, hearing concerns from multiple people can help the individual feel less isolated and more understood. However, ensure that this is done in a supportive and loving manner, avoiding any form of intervention that might feel like an attack.
Create a Supportive Environment
At home, try to create a supportive and non-threatening environment. This includes being patient and understanding, as well as minimizing stressors that may exacerbate their condition. Encourage healthy routines, such as regular meals and physical activity, which can positively impact mental health. If they are resistant to eating, consider preparing meals that are appealing and easy to consume, and try to eat together as a family to foster a sense of normalcy and support.
Monitor for Crisis Situations
Be vigilant for any signs that the situation may escalate into a crisis. If your family member exhibits self-harm behaviors or expresses thoughts of harming others, it is crucial to seek immediate help from mental health professionals or emergency services. Safety should always be the top priority.
Self-Care for Caregivers
Lastly, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Supporting someone with mental health challenges can be draining and emotionally taxing. Ensure that you are also seeking support, whether through friends, family, or professional counseling. This will help you maintain your own mental health and be better equipped to support your family member.
Conclusion
Coping with a family member's mental health challenges requires patience, empathy, and a proactive approach. While it may be difficult to navigate, remember that you are not alone in this journey. Seeking professional help, maintaining open communication, and creating a supportive environment can make a significant difference in the life of your family member. It’s important to approach the situation with love and understanding, as mental health issues are complex and often require time and support to address effectively.
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