How to help relatives accept that my mother has a mental illness?
How can I help others, including relatives and family members, accept that my mother has a mental illness and reduce their biases against her?
Jimin, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/02/08
Dr. Zhang Fangrong reply Psychiatry
Dear Sir/Madam,
Thank you for your inquiry and for your message.
The issues you mentioned are common challenges faced by psychiatric patients and their families, as society often holds preconceived notions and misunderstandings about mental illness.
In reality, each psychiatric patient's condition is unique, and not all patients are as unstable as portrayed in the news.
Most patients can achieve a stable state with appropriate treatment.
If family members can coordinate their time, it is advisable to invite them to participate in caring for the mother.
It may also be beneficial to inform the physician in advance and invite family members to join discussions and explanations with the healthcare team during outpatient visits or in the hospital.
Medical social workers can also address family members' thoughts and family interactions.
With the support of family and the treatment from the healthcare team, it is possible to maintain the mother's physical and mental health in optimal condition, which can lead to a new understanding and recognition of both the mother and mental illness among family members.
Our hospital has outpatient registration hours from Monday to Friday, both in the morning and afternoon, until 11:30 AM in the morning and until 4:30 PM in the afternoon.
There is also an attending physician on duty on Saturday mornings.
The outpatient consultation phone number is 06-2795019 ext 1106, 1107.
Wishing you good physical and mental health.
Sincerely,
Dr.
Fang-Rong Chang
Department of Psychiatry
Reply Date: 2016/02/08
More Info
Helping family members accept a loved one's mental illness can be a challenging and sensitive process. It requires patience, understanding, and effective communication. Here are some strategies that may help facilitate this acceptance and reduce stigma among relatives regarding your mother's mental health condition.
1. Educate Family Members About Mental Illness
One of the most effective ways to combat stigma is through education. Many people hold misconceptions about mental illness, often viewing it as a personal weakness or a character flaw. Share information about your mother's specific condition, its symptoms, and how it affects her daily life. You can provide resources such as articles, books, or videos that explain mental health issues in a compassionate and factual manner. This can help family members understand that mental illness is a medical condition, similar to physical illnesses, and not something to be ashamed of.
2. Encourage Open Dialogue
Create a safe space for family members to express their feelings and concerns about your mother's mental illness. Encourage them to ask questions and share their thoughts without fear of judgment. Open dialogue can help dispel myths and foster empathy. You might say something like, "I know this is a difficult topic, but it's important for us to talk about it. Understanding what Mom is going through can help us support her better."
3. Share Personal Experiences
If you feel comfortable, share your own experiences and feelings regarding your mother's mental illness. Discuss how it has impacted you and your family dynamics. Personal stories can humanize the issue and help others relate to the situation on a deeper level. For example, you might say, "I've seen how hard it is for Mom, and it makes me feel helpless sometimes. I think we can all do better to support her."
4. Highlight the Importance of Support
Emphasize the importance of a supportive family environment for your mother's recovery. Explain that mental illness can be isolating, and having a loving and understanding family can make a significant difference in her healing process. You could suggest family activities that promote bonding and support, such as family therapy sessions or group outings that foster connection.
5. Address Stigma Directly
If you encounter negative comments or attitudes towards your mother's condition, address them directly but tactfully. You might say, "I understand that mental illness can be hard to understand, but it's important to remember that Mom is still the same person we love. She needs our support, not judgment." This can help challenge stereotypes and encourage a more compassionate perspective.
6. Encourage Professional Help
Encourage family members to seek professional guidance if they are struggling to accept your mother's condition. Family therapy can be an effective way to address underlying issues and improve communication. A mental health professional can provide valuable insights and strategies for coping with the challenges of having a loved one with a mental illness.
7. Be Patient and Compassionate
Acceptance is a process that takes time. Be patient with your family members as they navigate their feelings about your mother's mental illness. Offer compassion and understanding, recognizing that they may have their own fears and misconceptions to overcome. Remind them that it's okay to have mixed feelings and that seeking help is a sign of strength.
Conclusion
Ultimately, fostering acceptance of your mother's mental illness among family members requires a combination of education, open communication, and compassion. By providing support and resources, you can help create a more understanding and accepting family environment. Remember that change takes time, and your efforts can make a significant difference in how your family perceives and supports your mother's mental health journey.
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