Male sexual desire issues
Since the fifth grade, I started to masturbate while looking at sexy girls in magazines, female celebrities, and beautiful women in sexy music videos.
I would easily get an erection and feel the urge to masturbate.
However, from around my first year of college until now in my fourth year, I find that when I see beautiful and sexy things, I don't have much sexual arousal or the same urge to masturbate.
During masturbation, everything feels normal; I can achieve an erection and the amount of ejaculation is okay, but I have lost the sense of sexual desire and arousal.
JJ, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/04/09
Dr. Li Xinyi reply Urology
A sudden decrease in libido should be taken seriously; it is advisable to consult a urologist for an examination and discuss it with a physician.
Reply Date: 2016/04/09
More Info
Understanding male sexual desire issues is a complex topic that encompasses various psychological, physiological, and social factors. The changes you are experiencing from puberty to adulthood regarding sexual desire and arousal are not uncommon, and they can be influenced by a multitude of factors.
During puberty, sexual desire typically peaks as hormonal changes occur. Testosterone, the primary male sex hormone, significantly influences libido and sexual arousal. In your case, it seems that during your early years, you experienced a strong sexual response to visual stimuli, such as images of attractive women or sexy music videos. This is a normal part of sexual development, as young males often find themselves exploring their sexuality through various forms of media.
However, as you transitioned into college and adulthood, you noted a decrease in sexual desire and arousal despite maintaining the ability to achieve erections and ejaculate normally. This phenomenon can be attributed to several factors:
1. Psychological Factors: Stress, anxiety, and depression can significantly impact sexual desire. The pressures of academic life, social expectations, or personal issues can lead to a decrease in libido. If you are experiencing stress or anxiety about your performance in school or relationships, it could manifest as a reduced interest in sexual activities.
2. Desensitization: Over time, frequent exposure to sexual stimuli can lead to desensitization. If you have been consuming a lot of sexual content, your brain may become accustomed to these stimuli, requiring more intense or varied forms of stimulation to elicit the same level of arousal. This is sometimes referred to as "sexual burnout," where the novelty of sexual stimuli diminishes, leading to a decrease in sexual desire.
3. Changes in Interests: As individuals mature, their sexual interests and preferences can evolve. What once excited you may no longer hold the same appeal. This could be a natural progression as you develop a more nuanced understanding of your sexuality and what truly arouses you.
4. Physical Health: Factors such as diet, exercise, sleep, and overall health can also influence sexual desire. If you have experienced changes in your lifestyle, such as increased sedentary behavior or poor nutrition, it could affect your libido. Additionally, certain medical conditions or medications can impact sexual function and desire.
5. Relationship Dynamics: If you are in a relationship or have been exploring romantic connections, the dynamics of those relationships can also play a role in your sexual desire. Emotional intimacy, compatibility, and communication with partners can significantly influence sexual arousal and interest.
If you find that your decreased sexual desire is causing distress or impacting your quality of life, it may be beneficial to seek professional help. A healthcare provider or a mental health professional specializing in sexual health can help you explore these issues further. They can provide a safe space to discuss your feelings and experiences, assess any underlying psychological or physical factors, and suggest appropriate interventions or therapies.
In conclusion, fluctuations in sexual desire are a normal part of human sexuality. Understanding the various factors that contribute to these changes can help you navigate your experiences more effectively. Remember, it’s essential to prioritize your mental and physical health and seek support if needed.
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