Why Does My Boyfriend's Penis Feel Sore After Sex? - Urology

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My boyfriend often feels soreness in his penis after we finish having sex.
He thinks it might be because we have sex for too long (about 30 minutes), and he also mentions that it could be due to me being too tight.
Could these reasons cause him to feel soreness in his penis after sex?

ya, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2016/07/19

Dr. Chen Jiansheng reply Urology


Hello, Miss: The complaint of penile discomfort is quite vague; sometimes it is necessary to consider prostate enlargement or local congestion compressing the nerves.
Chen Jian-sheng, Urology Department, Hsin Ying Hospital.

Reply Date: 2016/07/19

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Experiencing soreness in the penis after sexual intercourse can be attributed to several factors, and it’s important to consider both physiological and psychological aspects. Your boyfriend's discomfort could be a result of the duration of sexual activity, the intensity of the encounter, or even anatomical factors related to how the two of you engage in sexual activity.

1. Duration and Intensity of Intercourse: Engaging in sexual activity for an extended period, such as 30 minutes, can lead to soreness. The penis is a sensitive organ, and prolonged friction can cause irritation or soreness. If the thrusting is vigorous or if there is a lot of movement, this can exacerbate the feeling of soreness. It’s essential to listen to your partner’s body and adjust the intensity and duration of intercourse accordingly.
2. Tightness and Pressure: If your boyfriend mentions that he feels sore because you "squeeze him too tightly," this could indicate that the pressure during penetration is too intense for him. While some individuals may enjoy a tighter sensation, it can lead to discomfort for others. Communication about what feels good and what does not is crucial in sexual relationships. If he feels that the tightness is causing discomfort, it might be worth exploring different positions or techniques that allow for a more comfortable experience.

3. Lubrication: Insufficient lubrication can also lead to friction, which can cause soreness. If you are not using enough lubricant, or if the natural lubrication is not sufficient, this can lead to irritation. Consider using a water-based or silicone-based lubricant to reduce friction and enhance comfort during intercourse.

4. Physical Condition: If your boyfriend has not engaged in sexual activity for a while, his body may not be accustomed to the physical exertion involved in intercourse. This can lead to soreness, especially if he is not used to the level of activity. Regular sexual activity can help condition the body and reduce soreness over time.

5. Underlying Medical Issues: In some cases, persistent soreness could indicate an underlying medical condition, such as a skin irritation, infection, or other urological issues. If the soreness continues or worsens, it would be wise for him to consult a healthcare professional to rule out any potential medical concerns.

6. Psychological Factors: Sometimes, anxiety or stress related to sexual performance can lead to tension in the body, which may manifest as soreness. If your boyfriend is feeling anxious about the experience, it could lead to a more tense state during intercourse, contributing to discomfort afterward.

In conclusion, while soreness after sex can be common, it is essential to address the underlying causes. Open communication between partners about comfort levels, preferences, and any discomfort experienced is vital for a healthy sexual relationship. If the soreness persists or is accompanied by other symptoms, seeking medical advice is recommended to ensure there are no underlying health issues.

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