the Impact of External Influence on Mental Health - Psychiatry

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Forcing others to follow one's directives and then blaming them?


My cousin is in his senior year of high school this year.
He has a reclusive personality, is a homebody, and is somewhat simple-minded.
His parents are divorced, and he lives with his father, who does not provide enough care.
However, his grandparents are very concerned about him.
For example, when his grandmother tells him that a certain dish is delicious, he will eat the entire plate, and afterward, if he has a stomachache, he will say it was because his grandmother told him to eat it.
He tends to follow others' suggestions and forces himself to comply to the point of self-abuse.
Our family believes he may be unwell, and we kindly ask for the doctor's assistance in understanding his situation.
Thank you.

A Yi, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2017/01/07

Dr. Liang Sunyuan reply Psychiatry


Hello Ayi: Perhaps your cousin has difficulties with conversation comprehension or understanding social rules, which makes it easy for him to misunderstand others' intentions.
I suggest being more precise in your communication with him next time.
For example, in the case above, you could say: "This dish is delicious; why don't you take a couple of bites?" See if clarifying the details can lead to improvement.

Reply Date: 2017/01/07

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Understanding the impact of external influences on mental health is crucial, especially in the context of adolescents who are navigating complex emotional landscapes. Your cousin's situation, characterized by a tendency to comply with others' suggestions to the point of self-neglect, raises several important considerations regarding mental health and well-being.

Firstly, it is essential to recognize that adolescents are particularly susceptible to external influences, including family dynamics, peer pressure, and societal expectations. In your cousin's case, the divorce of his parents and the subsequent living situation with his father, who may not provide adequate emotional support, can significantly affect his mental health. The presence of caring grandparents is a positive factor, but it may not fully compensate for the emotional void left by his parents' separation.

The behavior you described—where your cousin feels compelled to eat a dish simply because his grandmother praised it, even to the point of causing himself discomfort—suggests a possible issue with assertiveness and self-advocacy. This could stem from a desire to please others or a lack of confidence in his own judgment. Such tendencies can lead to maladaptive coping mechanisms, where he prioritizes others' opinions over his own well-being. This behavior can be indicative of underlying issues such as anxiety, low self-esteem, or even traits associated with dependent personality disorder, where individuals may struggle to make decisions independently and rely heavily on others for guidance.

Moreover, the fact that he experiences physical discomfort as a result of his compliance raises concerns about the relationship between mental and physical health. The mind-body connection is well-documented in medical literature; stress and anxiety can manifest as physical symptoms, including gastrointestinal issues. Therefore, it is crucial to address not only the behavioral aspects but also the emotional and psychological factors contributing to his condition.

In terms of intervention, it would be beneficial for your cousin to engage in therapy, where he can explore his feelings and behaviors in a safe environment. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective for adolescents, as it helps them develop healthier thought patterns and coping strategies. Therapy can empower him to assert his needs and make decisions that prioritize his well-being rather than solely seeking approval from others.

Additionally, family therapy could be advantageous, as it would allow for open communication among family members, addressing any underlying issues stemming from the divorce and fostering a supportive environment. Encouraging your cousin to express his feelings and concerns within the family context can help him feel more secure and understood.

It is also important to promote activities that build his self-esteem and independence. Encouraging him to engage in hobbies or interests that he enjoys, separate from family influences, can help him develop a sense of identity and autonomy. This could involve joining clubs, participating in sports, or exploring creative outlets.

In conclusion, your cousin's behavior reflects a complex interplay of external influences and internal struggles. Addressing these issues through therapy, family support, and fostering independence can significantly improve his mental health and overall well-being. It is vital to approach this situation with empathy and understanding, recognizing that he may be navigating a challenging emotional landscape that requires professional guidance and support.

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