Safe Sex Practices and Concerns for Young Couples - Obstetrics and Gynecology

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Some questions about losing virginity?


Hello, doctor.
Recently, my boyfriend and I are planning to engage in sexual intercourse.
He suggested using a condom and then pulling out to ejaculate inside the condom.
Is this a viable method? If we later find out that the condom broke, would I need to take emergency contraception? I am also considering whether to use preemptive contraception, but I'm unsure if it's suitable for my age.
Lastly, if my boyfriend uses a condom and only penetrates at the entrance, would that prevent pregnancy? I want to be well-informed before proceeding, and I hope you can provide some advice.
Thank you!

h, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2018/06/06

Dr. Huang Jianzhong reply Obstetrics and Gynecology


1.
Recently, I have plans to engage in sexual intercourse with my boyfriend.
He suggested using a condom and then withdrawing to ejaculate into the condom.
Is this feasible? Answer: Yes, this is feasible.

2.
If we later discover that the condom broke, would I need to take emergency contraception? Answer: Yes.

3.
I am considering whether to take preemptive contraception, but I’m unsure if it’s suitable for my young age.
Answer: It’s advisable to consider preemptive contraception when engaging in regular sexual activity.

4.
If my boyfriend uses a condom and only penetrates at the entrance on the day I lose my virginity, is there a risk of pregnancy? Answer: No, there is no risk of pregnancy.

Reply Date: 2018/06/06

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When it comes to safe sex practices, especially for young couples who are planning to engage in sexual activity for the first time, it's crucial to understand the various methods of protection and the risks involved. Your concerns about using condoms and the possibility of pregnancy are valid and deserve careful consideration.

Firstly, using a condom is one of the most effective ways to prevent both sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unintended pregnancies. When used correctly, condoms significantly reduce the risk of transmitting infections and can also prevent sperm from entering the vagina, thereby reducing the chance of pregnancy. Your boyfriend's suggestion to use a condom and withdraw before ejaculation is a common practice known as the withdrawal method. However, it's important to note that this method is not foolproof. Pre-ejaculate fluid can contain sperm, and if the condom breaks or slips off during intercourse, there is a risk of pregnancy.

If you are concerned about the possibility of the condom breaking, it is wise to have a backup plan in place. If you discover that the condom has broken after intercourse, taking emergency contraception (the "morning-after pill") can help prevent pregnancy if taken within a specific time frame (usually within 72 to 120 hours, depending on the type). However, it's important to remember that emergency contraception is not intended to be used as a regular form of birth control.

Regarding your question about "breaking your virginity" and whether it would lead to pregnancy if your boyfriend only penetrates the vaginal opening without full insertion, the risk of pregnancy is still present. Even if penetration is shallow, if sperm comes into contact with the vaginal area, there is a possibility of it traveling into the vagina and leading to pregnancy. Therefore, it is essential to use a condom properly throughout the entire sexual encounter.

As for taking birth control pills, it is a personal decision that should be made with careful consideration and ideally in consultation with a healthcare provider. Birth control pills can be an effective way to prevent pregnancy when taken consistently and correctly. However, they do not protect against STIs, so using condoms in conjunction with hormonal birth control is often recommended for added protection.

In addition to these considerations, it is essential to communicate openly with your partner about your feelings, boundaries, and concerns regarding sexual activity. Establishing mutual consent and understanding each other's comfort levels is crucial for a positive sexual experience.

Lastly, if you have any lingering concerns about sexual health, contraception, or STIs, consider scheduling an appointment with a healthcare provider or a sexual health clinic. They can provide personalized advice, discuss various contraceptive options, and help you make informed decisions about your sexual health.

In summary, using condoms correctly is vital for safe sex, and having a backup plan for contraception can help alleviate concerns about unintended pregnancy. Open communication with your partner and seeking professional advice can further enhance your understanding and comfort with sexual activity.

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