Psychological counseling
I don't know what's wrong with me.
One moment I'm smiling, and the next I can't seem to smile at all.
Even when I'm having a good time chatting with my family, colleagues, or friends, and my mouth is smiling and my words are funny, why do I feel so tired, so annoyed, and just want to be alone in silence? I feel like I haven't genuinely laughed from the heart in a long time; I can't even remember the last time I truly laughed.
Now, everything I hear or see just feels heavy in my chest—not painful, but like something is weighing down on me.
A few days ago, I experienced this sensation suddenly, and it made it hard for me to breathe, causing me to cough continuously.
Today, I felt it again, but I managed to hold it in.
Also, recently I've had this disturbing thought that occasionally pops up: the wish for my family to die.
When I have this thought, I don't feel sad at all; I just want to be alone.
Then I feel scared of myself for having such thoughts.
Today, I had that thought again.
I don't truly want my family to die, but I don't want to see them either; I just want to be by myself.
Zhang, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2018/12/14
Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry
Hello, the entanglement in your family relationships can also be a form of life stress.
If you are experiencing such discomforting situations, it is advisable to seek further psychological counseling or visit a mental health facility.
Remember to bring this information for the therapist's reference.
Wishing you a speedy recovery, Dr.
Wu Enliang.
Reply Date: 2018/12/14
More Info
It sounds like you are experiencing a significant amount of emotional turmoil, which can be incredibly distressing. Your feelings of sudden mood swings, a lack of genuine happiness, and the physical sensations of tightness in your chest are all important indicators that you may be struggling with your mental health. It's crucial to understand that these experiences are not uncommon, and many people go through similar challenges.
From your description, it seems you might be dealing with symptoms that could be associated with anxiety, depression, or even a more complex emotional disorder. The feelings of wanting to isolate yourself, combined with thoughts that you find troubling, such as wishing harm upon your family, are serious and warrant attention. These thoughts can often arise from overwhelming stress or emotional pain, and while they may not reflect your true desires, they indicate a need for support and intervention.
The physical symptoms you mentioned, like the feeling of pressure in your chest and difficulty breathing, can be manifestations of anxiety. Anxiety can often present itself not only through emotional symptoms but also through physical sensations that can be quite alarming. It's important to recognize that these feelings are valid and that seeking help is a strong and positive step forward.
Here are some suggestions for addressing your emotional struggles:
1. Seek Professional Help: It is essential to reach out to a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist. They can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings and thoughts without judgment. Therapy can help you explore the underlying causes of your emotions and develop coping strategies.
2. Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Engaging in mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep breathing exercises, can help you manage anxiety and reduce feelings of overwhelm. These techniques can help ground you in the present moment and alleviate some of the physical symptoms you are experiencing.
3. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic way to process what you are going through. It can help you identify patterns in your emotions and provide clarity on your feelings.
4. Connect with Supportive People: While you may feel the urge to isolate yourself, try to maintain connections with friends or family members who are understanding and supportive. Sharing your experiences with someone you trust can alleviate feelings of loneliness and despair.
5. Engage in Physical Activity: Regular exercise can significantly improve your mood and reduce anxiety. Physical activity releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters. Even a short walk can make a difference.
6. Limit Stressors: If there are specific situations or people that contribute to your stress, try to identify and limit your exposure to them. Setting boundaries can be an essential part of managing your mental health.
7. Educate Yourself: Understanding mental health can empower you. Reading about anxiety and depression can help you recognize your symptoms and understand that you are not alone in your experiences.
8. Emergency Support: If you ever feel overwhelmed by your thoughts or emotions, or if you have thoughts of self-harm or harming others, it is crucial to seek immediate help. Contact a crisis hotline or go to the nearest emergency room.
Remember, acknowledging that you need help is a significant first step. Mental health struggles can feel isolating, but with the right support and treatment, it is possible to find relief and regain a sense of joy and peace in your life. You deserve to feel better, and there are resources available to help you on this journey.
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