Am I at Risk for HIV or STDs After a Night Out? - Urology

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Am I at risk for HIV or other sexually transmitted infections (STIs)?


A few days ago, on December 16th, I attended a friend's birthday party and ended up talking a lot with a female friend I know (she works as an escort).
We both had been drinking and were feeling a bit tipsy, though not completely out of it.
At the end of the birthday party, she took me to a hotel room where it was just the two of us, with no one else around.
We didn't stay long, maybe about an hour or even less.
I remember that we kissed, and it seemed like there was some French kissing, but I'm not sure if we engaged in any sexual intercourse (intimate acts).
I only clearly remember the kissing.

I'm concerned about whether I could have contracted HIV or other sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
I do remember the checkout process and taking a taxi home.
I'm really worried but don't know what to do.
Thank you, doctor.

Jiao Lü Nan, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2018/12/18

Dr. Chen Jiansheng reply Urology


Don't make unnecessary guesses; just get a blood test done so everyone can feel at ease.

Reply Date: 2018/12/18

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When it comes to assessing your risk for HIV or other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) after a night out, there are several factors to consider based on your description of the events.
Firstly, it’s important to understand how HIV is transmitted. HIV is primarily spread through direct contact with certain body fluids from a person who has HIV. These fluids include blood, semen, vaginal fluids, rectal fluids, and breast milk. The most common ways HIV is transmitted include unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse, sharing needles, and from mother to child during childbirth or breastfeeding. Oral sex carries a lower risk, but it is not zero, especially if there are cuts or sores in the mouth or if the partner has a high viral load.

In your case, you mentioned that you were drinking and had a somewhat impaired state of mind, which can affect decision-making. You also indicated that you engaged in kissing, including deep kissing (tongue kissing), but you are unsure if any sexual intercourse occurred. Kissing, even deep kissing, generally poses a very low risk for HIV transmission unless there are open sores or bleeding gums involved.
If you did not engage in penetrative sex (either vaginal or anal) without protection, your risk for HIV is significantly reduced. However, if there was any form of sexual activity that involved the exchange of bodily fluids, such as oral sex, there is still a potential risk, albeit lower than unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse.
Given that you were unsure about the extent of the sexual activity, it is advisable to monitor your health closely for any symptoms that may arise. Common early symptoms of HIV can include fever, sore throat, fatigue, and swollen lymph nodes, but these symptoms can also be indicative of other illnesses.
If you are feeling anxious about the possibility of having contracted HIV or another STD, it is recommended that you get tested. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) advises that individuals who have had potential exposure to HIV should get tested at least 2-4 weeks after exposure for an initial assessment, and then again at 3 months for a conclusive result.
In addition to HIV testing, consider getting screened for other STDs, especially if you have had unprotected sexual contact. Many STDs can be asymptomatic, so regular testing is a good practice if you are sexually active, particularly with new partners.

Lastly, if you are experiencing any unusual symptoms, such as fever, sore throat, or any other concerning signs, it is crucial to consult a healthcare provider. They can provide you with appropriate testing and guidance based on your specific situation.

In summary, while your risk for HIV appears to be low based on your description, it is always best to err on the side of caution. Getting tested will provide you with peace of mind and ensure that you can address any potential health issues promptly.

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