Erectile Issues: What to Do After a Disturbing Experience - Urology

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Hello Doctor, I recently stayed up late on New Year's Eve watching adult films.
I only watched one or two, but the next day I ejaculated before I could achieve an erection.
I'm very anxious because this is the first time this has happened; previously, I was as hard as steel and could last at least ten minutes.
However, this time I couldn't even maintain an erection for two minutes.
What should I do, Doctor? Should I rely on exercise?

Gui Feng, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2020/01/25

Dr. Sun Hongshun reply Urology


Hello, you don't need to worry.
The hardness of penile erections is related to lifestyle, dietary habits, and exercise.
It may be associated with your routines and diet during the holiday season.
I suggest making adjustments, and you should see improvements.

Reply Date: 2020/01/25

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Experiencing erectile issues, especially after a distressing or unusual event, can be concerning, but it’s important to understand that this is a common occurrence and can happen to anyone. In your case, it seems that the combination of staying up late, watching pornography, and perhaps the anxiety surrounding the situation may have contributed to your temporary erectile difficulties.
Firstly, it’s essential to recognize that sexual performance can be influenced by a variety of factors, including physical health, mental state, and even lifestyle choices. Stress, fatigue, and anxiety can significantly impact your ability to achieve and maintain an erection. The fact that you mentioned this was a first-time experience for you may have added to the pressure you felt, which can further exacerbate the situation.

Here are some steps you can take to address your concerns:
1. Relaxation Techniques: Stress and anxiety are common culprits in erectile dysfunction. Consider practicing relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga. These can help reduce anxiety and improve your overall mental state.

2. Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Regular exercise can improve blood flow and overall health, which is beneficial for sexual function. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise most days of the week. Additionally, maintaining a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean proteins can support your sexual health.

3. Limit Alcohol and Avoid Drugs: Excessive alcohol consumption and recreational drug use can impair sexual performance. If you consume alcohol, do so in moderation.

4. Sleep Hygiene: Ensure you are getting enough sleep. Lack of sleep can lead to fatigue and decreased libido. Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night.

5. Open Communication: If you have a partner, consider discussing your feelings and experiences with them. Open communication can alleviate some of the pressure you may feel and foster intimacy.

6. Seek Professional Help: If erectile issues persist, it may be beneficial to consult a healthcare professional. They can help identify any underlying medical conditions or psychological factors that may be contributing to your difficulties. A healthcare provider can also offer guidance on treatment options, which may include therapy, medication, or lifestyle changes.

7. Avoid Pornography: If you find that watching pornography is affecting your sexual performance, consider reducing or eliminating it from your routine. Pornography can create unrealistic expectations and may lead to performance anxiety.

8. Be Patient with Yourself: Understand that experiencing erectile difficulties is not uncommon, and it does not define your sexual abilities. Be patient with yourself as you navigate this experience.

In summary, while it’s natural to feel concerned about changes in your sexual performance, it’s important to approach the situation with understanding and care. By focusing on relaxation, healthy lifestyle choices, and open communication, you can work towards regaining confidence in your sexual health. If issues persist, don’t hesitate to seek professional advice for further support. Remember, you are not alone in this, and many people experience similar challenges at some point in their lives.

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