Struggling with Depression After Studying Abroad: A Mental Health Perspective

Returning from studying abroad and feeling disheartened?

After returning home from the U.S., the individual feels depressed and is willing to live a simple life, showing a reluctance to strive or engage with others.
They have become reclusive, preferring solitude and distancing themselves from family and friends, believing that interpersonal relationships are inherently dangerous.
Their thinking appears irrational.
When angry, they tend to damage objects.
Aside from this, their sleep and daily life are normal, and they enjoy playing computer and electronic games.

yanggo, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2000/10/03

Dr. Liu Weimin reply Psychiatry

I apologize for the delay in my response.
Striving for satisfying interpersonal relationships can often be disheartening, as it is inherently challenging.
Therefore, wanting to withdraw and spend time alone at times is not a problem.
You may have had unpleasant experiences in the past that have made you defensive around others.
Sometimes, having overly high expectations for interpersonal interactions can lead to deeper disappointment.
Do you believe in fate? Engaging with others with a calm and unselfish mindset often yields better results.
When feeling angry, try to find safe outlets for your emotions (such as a comforter or pillow) to avoid regrettable actions later.
Being able to eat, sleep, and enjoy video games is a good thing! Relax and move forward! Dr.
Liu

Reply Date: 2000/10/03

More Info

Struggling with depression after studying abroad can be a complex and challenging experience, especially when returning home to a familiar yet altered environment. The feelings of isolation, disconnection, and a desire for a simpler life can be indicative of deeper emotional struggles that may stem from various factors, including cultural adjustment, academic pressure, and personal expectations.
When you mention feeling disheartened and preferring solitude, it suggests a potential withdrawal from social interactions, which is a common symptom of depression. This withdrawal can be exacerbated by the belief that interpersonal relationships are fraught with danger or negativity. Such thoughts can create a vicious cycle where isolation leads to increased feelings of loneliness and despair, further reinforcing the belief that social connections are harmful.

The behavior of damaging objects when angry can also be a sign of emotional dysregulation, which is often associated with depression and anxiety. This kind of expression of frustration may provide a temporary release but can lead to feelings of guilt or shame afterward, further complicating your emotional state.

Your enjoyment of computer games and electronic activities might serve as a coping mechanism, providing an escape from reality. While these activities can offer temporary relief, they may also contribute to further isolation if they replace real-life interactions and responsibilities. It’s essential to strike a balance between leisure activities and engaging with the world around you.

To address these feelings and behaviors, consider the following strategies:
1. Seek Professional Help: Consulting with a mental health professional can provide you with the tools and support needed to navigate your feelings. Therapy can help you explore the underlying causes of your depression and develop coping strategies. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective in addressing negative thought patterns and behaviors.

2. Establish a Routine: Creating a daily routine can help instill a sense of normalcy and purpose. Include activities that promote physical health, such as exercise, which has been shown to improve mood and reduce symptoms of depression.

3. Gradual Exposure to Social Situations: While it may feel daunting, gradually re-engaging with social situations can help combat feelings of isolation. Start with small interactions, such as reaching out to a friend or family member, and gradually increase your social involvement.

4. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing mindfulness, meditation, or yoga can help you manage stress and improve your emotional regulation. These techniques can provide a sense of calm and help you reconnect with your feelings in a safe space.

5. Limit Negative Influences: If certain environments or relationships contribute to your negative thinking, it may be beneficial to distance yourself from them. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who encourage positive interactions and emotional growth.

6. Engage in Meaningful Activities: Find activities that bring you joy or a sense of accomplishment. Whether it’s a hobby, volunteering, or pursuing a new interest, engaging in meaningful activities can help shift your focus away from negative thoughts.

7. Monitor Your Progress: Keep a journal to track your feelings, thoughts, and progress. This can help you identify patterns and triggers, making it easier to address them constructively.

In conclusion, transitioning back home after studying abroad can be a significant adjustment, and it’s normal to experience a range of emotions during this time. By seeking support, establishing routines, and gradually re-engaging with the world, you can work towards overcoming these challenges. Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and there are resources available to help you navigate your mental health struggles.

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