Am I Experiencing Erectile Dysfunction at 31? Seeking Answers - Urology

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Am I experiencing erectile dysfunction?


Hello, doctor! I am 31 years old.
I used to masturbate less frequently, but now I do it about once a week.
I have developed a habit of stimulating my nipples while watching adult films to achieve an erection.
Recently, I started dating a girlfriend, and when I wanted to engage in sexual intercourse, I found that I was unable to maintain an erection.
I stimulated my nipples for a while, and eventually, I was able to get hard, but when I tried to put on a condom, I lost my erection within a minute.
In the end, my girlfriend helped me finish, but she commented that I wasn't hard enough.
After some time, we ended up breaking up.

I went to see a doctor about this issue, but he only spent five minutes with me and told me to leave.
His assessment was that it is rare for someone my age to have erectile dysfunction and that it is likely a psychological issue, suggesting I just need to try more.
He prescribed Viagra, but I don't want to take it.
Now that I don't have a girlfriend, I have no opportunity to try.

As a personal experiment, I have been abstinent for fifteen days, and without stimulating my nipples, I am completely unable to achieve an erection.
However, I do experience morning erections, although they are not very firm.

Could you please advise me: does this qualify as erectile dysfunction? How severe is the condition? Are there any supplements or medications that could help improve this? Given my age and symptoms, will the situation improve if I stop masturbating? Should I seek a second opinion from another doctor?

Axi, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2020/12/16

Dr. Cai Zhuorong reply Urology


Psychogenic erectile dysfunction is also a type of erectile dysfunction.
It is recommended that you try to re-establish the habit of achieving an erection and engaging in sexual intercourse with the assistance of Viagra.

Reply Date: 2020/12/16

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Erectile dysfunction (ED) at the age of 31 can be concerning, and it's understandable that you're seeking answers. Based on your description, it seems that you are experiencing difficulties with achieving and maintaining an erection, particularly in the context of sexual activity with a partner. While it is common for men to experience occasional difficulties with erections, persistent issues can indicate underlying problems that may be psychological, physiological, or a combination of both.

Firstly, it's important to clarify what constitutes erectile dysfunction. ED is typically defined as the inability to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for satisfactory sexual performance. Given that you have experienced some ability to achieve erections (such as during masturbation or morning erections), it suggests that the physiological mechanisms for erections are still functioning to some extent. However, the fact that you are relying on specific stimuli (like nipple stimulation) to achieve an erection may indicate a psychological component to your experience.

Your doctor's assessment that your situation may be more psychological than physiological is not uncommon, especially in younger men. Anxiety, stress, and performance pressure can significantly impact sexual function. The fact that you experienced difficulties during a new relationship could have contributed to performance anxiety, which can create a cycle of fear and anxiety that further exacerbates the issue.

The experiment you conducted by abstaining from masturbation for 15 days and finding that you could not achieve an erection without nipple stimulation may suggest a conditioned response to sexual arousal. This is not uncommon, as sexual arousal can be influenced by various stimuli, and it may take time to recondition your responses.

Regarding your question about supplements or medications, there are various options available, but it's essential to approach this with caution. While some supplements claim to improve sexual function, their efficacy and safety are often not well-established. If you are considering any supplements, it would be wise to consult with a healthcare professional to ensure they are appropriate for you.

As for the possibility of improvement through abstaining from masturbation, it may help some individuals to reset their sexual responses, but this varies from person to person. It’s important to find a balance that works for you and to avoid putting undue pressure on yourself regarding sexual performance.

Given your ongoing concerns and the fact that you feel your previous consultation was insufficient, seeking a second opinion from another healthcare provider, preferably one who specializes in sexual health or urology, could be beneficial. A thorough evaluation may include a detailed medical history, physical examination, and possibly some tests to rule out any underlying medical conditions that could contribute to ED, such as hormonal imbalances or vascular issues.

In summary, while you may not have classic erectile dysfunction in the traditional sense, your experiences indicate that there are factors at play that warrant further exploration. Psychological factors, conditioning, and possibly physiological aspects could all be contributing to your situation. Seeking a comprehensive evaluation from a knowledgeable healthcare provider can help you better understand your condition and explore appropriate treatment options. Remember, you are not alone in this, and many men experience similar challenges at various points in their lives.

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