Age-related sexual dysfunction
Dr.
Du, I apologize for bothering you, but since most of the questioners on the forum are younger, I couldn't find previous answers to my concerns and had to seek your advice here.
I recently discovered that I am unable to achieve an erection during intercourse with my wife.
Even when I manage to get erect through DIY methods, I lose firmness shortly after penetration.
This has left me feeling somewhat disheartened.
My wife's reaction also adds to my distress.
However, I can face the reality of "aging and declining strength" and don't feel that I must necessarily change this situation; I just wonder if I have reached a certain endpoint in life.
I am not afraid of this; in fact, I feel a calmness that I rarely experienced before.
But I would like to know if experiencing this at my age is normal.
To verify, I have tried DIY methods multiple times, and I can still achieve an erection and experience some secretion, although it has decreased significantly.
My wife has also noticed this phenomenon over the past year.
My questions may be vague, and I hope I haven't offended you.
Perhaps I am just caught in the early stages of aging and don't know how to cope with it.
Thank you, doctor.
Ong Picton, 60~69 year old female. Ask Date: 2020/04/28
Dr. Du Mingyi reply Urology
You can visit the urology clinic for an examination, but it seems that psychological factors are predominant.
Timely changes or flirting may be helpful.
Reply Date: 2020/04/28
More Info
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common concern among older adults, and it can be a source of anxiety and frustration for both the individual and their partner. As men age, various physiological and psychological factors can contribute to difficulties in achieving or maintaining an erection. It is important to understand that experiencing ED is not uncommon and does not necessarily indicate the end of one's sexual life or vitality.
First and foremost, it is essential to recognize that aging is associated with a natural decline in testosterone levels, which can affect libido and erectile function. Additionally, older adults may experience changes in blood flow, nerve function, and muscle tone, all of which can contribute to ED. Conditions such as diabetes, hypertension, and cardiovascular disease are more prevalent in older populations and can further exacerbate erectile difficulties. Medications for these conditions may also have side effects that impact sexual performance.
Psychological factors can also play a significant role in ED. Stress, anxiety, and depression can all interfere with sexual arousal and performance. The pressure to perform, especially if one is aware of their partner's expectations or reactions, can create a cycle of anxiety that makes the situation worse. It is commendable that you are approaching this issue with a sense of calm and acceptance, but it is also important to address any underlying emotional or psychological concerns.
In your case, it seems that you have been able to achieve an erection through self-stimulation, which indicates that the physiological mechanisms for erection are still functioning to some extent. However, the inability to maintain an erection during intercourse suggests that there may be other factors at play, such as anxiety or performance pressure. Open communication with your partner about these feelings can help alleviate some of the stress associated with the situation.
It is advisable to consult with a healthcare professional who specializes in sexual health or urology. They can conduct a thorough evaluation to determine any underlying medical conditions that may be contributing to your ED. This may include blood tests to check hormone levels, cardiovascular health, and other relevant factors. Depending on the findings, treatment options may include lifestyle changes, medication, or therapy.
Lifestyle modifications can also be beneficial in managing ED. Regular exercise, a healthy diet, maintaining a healthy weight, and avoiding smoking and excessive alcohol consumption can all improve overall health and potentially enhance erectile function. Additionally, addressing any psychological factors through counseling or therapy can be an effective way to manage anxiety and improve sexual performance.
In summary, experiencing erectile dysfunction as an older adult is a common issue and can be influenced by a variety of factors. It is important to approach this concern with an open mind and seek professional guidance to explore potential underlying causes and treatment options. Remember that you are not alone in this experience, and there are resources available to help you navigate this aspect of your life. Open communication with your partner and a proactive approach to your health can lead to improved outcomes and a fulfilling sexual relationship.
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