Affective Disorder
Hello, Doctor: About a year ago, I started to realize that I am different from others, and upon reflection, I think the signs began about eight years ago.
I find it difficult to understand when others cry, even during family funerals, which doesn't surprise me.
When close friends complain or cry to me, I feel they are overreacting.
A few months ago, I saw a pigeon that had died from a broken neck lying in a pool of blood in the hallway, and I seemed indifferent.
While chatting with friends, I became aware that I might be too calm and have difficulty establishing empathy for others.
Most of the time, my emotions are very stable, with only distinctions between feeling bad, neutral, and good.
I cannot differentiate between anger and sadness; I only know that I want to scream or cry.
After researching, I came across the term "alexithymia" and scored above 61 on the Toronto Alexithymia Scale.
I would like to ask if this indicates a high likelihood of having alexithymia.
If so, should I seek medical attention? Thank you for your help, Doctor! :)
Niming, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/01/18
Dr. Wang Yaoting reply Psychiatry
Hello: "Alexithymia" refers to the inability to express emotions verbally, rather than a lack of emotional experience, although it is often interpreted more broadly.
Based on your description, it seems that this may be more related to personality traits, typically associated with one's upbringing and psychological mechanisms of "repression," rather than being clearly linked to general mental disorders.
If this causes you distress or affects your interpersonal relationships, family, or work life, it would be advisable to seek a medical evaluation.
You can visit a psychosomatic medicine clinic, where medication or psychotherapy may be beneficial.
I hope this answers your question :)
Reply Date: 2021/01/18
More Info
Alexithymia is a psychological condition characterized by difficulty in identifying and expressing emotions. Individuals with alexithymia often struggle to recognize their own feelings and may find it challenging to empathize with others. This condition can lead to a range of interpersonal difficulties, as emotional communication is a fundamental aspect of human relationships.
Based on your description, it seems you are experiencing several signs commonly associated with alexithymia. These include:
1. Difficulty Understanding Emotions: You mentioned that you find it hard to comprehend why others cry or express their emotions, even in significant situations like a funeral. This suggests a disconnect between emotional experiences and the ability to process them.
2. Lack of Emotional Response: Your reaction to witnessing distressing situations, such as seeing a dead bird, indicates a muted emotional response. This can be a hallmark of alexithymia, where individuals may appear emotionally detached or indifferent.
3. Limited Emotional Vocabulary: You noted that you primarily categorize your feelings as "bad," "normal," or "good," which reflects a restricted emotional vocabulary. This limitation can hinder your ability to articulate feelings accurately.
4. Difficulty Distinguishing Emotions: The challenge you face in differentiating between anger and sadness further points to difficulties in emotional awareness, which is a core aspect of alexithymia.
Given your score on the Toronto Alexithymia Scale, which is above 61, it does suggest a high likelihood of alexithymia. However, it's essential to understand that self-diagnosis can be misleading. While your experiences align with the characteristics of alexithymia, a formal diagnosis should be made by a qualified mental health professional.
When to Seek Help
If your emotional difficulties are causing you distress or impacting your relationships, it would be beneficial to seek professional help. Here are some indicators that suggest it may be time to consult a mental health professional:
- Interpersonal Challenges: If you find that your relationships are suffering due to your emotional responses or lack thereof, therapy can provide strategies to improve emotional communication and empathy.
- Personal Distress: If you feel unhappy or frustrated with your emotional experiences, or if you find yourself overwhelmed by feelings you cannot identify, a therapist can help you explore these emotions in a safe environment.
- Desire for Change: If you are motivated to understand your emotions better and improve your emotional intelligence, therapy can be an effective avenue for personal growth.
Therapeutic Approaches
In therapy, various approaches can be beneficial for individuals with alexithymia:
1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This approach can help you identify and challenge negative thought patterns related to emotions. It can also assist in developing a better understanding of your feelings.
2. Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT): This therapy specifically targets emotional awareness and expression, helping individuals learn to identify and articulate their emotions more effectively.
3. Mindfulness Practices: Mindfulness can enhance emotional awareness by encouraging you to focus on the present moment and observe your feelings without judgment.
4. Support Groups: Engaging with others who share similar experiences can provide validation and insights into managing emotional challenges.
In conclusion, while your experiences suggest a high likelihood of alexithymia, seeking a professional evaluation is crucial for a proper diagnosis and treatment plan. Therapy can offer valuable tools and support to help you navigate your emotional landscape, improve your relationships, and enhance your overall well-being. Don't hesitate to reach out for help; taking that step can lead to significant personal growth and understanding.
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