the Differences in Male and Female Sexual Pleasure

Why is male pleasure not as intense as female pleasure?

When sexual tension is high, it feels good, but it can lead to premature ejaculation.
After ejaculation, the sexual tension is less intense, making it less likely to experience premature ejaculation, but there is almost no sensation, and only a little feeling is present when nearing orgasm.
Being a woman seems advantageous; why is that? According to an article I found online titled "The Sexual Endurance Limits of Women," from a physiological perspective, and excluding any pathological conditions or special social circumstances (such as rape), women's sexual capacity is almost limitless.
They do not have a penis and do not need to exert effort like men to achieve and maintain an erection.
Notably, women do not experience a physiological refractory period and do not become flaccid after intercourse.
Therefore, they can objectively engage in high-frequency sexual activity at any time.
Similarly, the intensity of women's sexual activity is only limited by their physical stamina, without the concerns men have about penile flaccidity.
Additionally, women have more and broader areas of sexual sensitivity on their bodies compared to men, allowing them to vary their sexual behaviors more than men can.
Finally, women can achieve an unlimited number of orgasms consecutively, which is something men cannot match.
Confucianism and Taoism have long recognized this, but to maintain the male-centered society of the time, they were filled with deep fear regarding this reality.
Confucianism advocated for the idea that "a woman's lack of sexuality is virtue" to severely suppress women's sexual capabilities, while Taoism promoted men's "preservation of essence" to counterbalance women's limitless sexual abilities.
These two sexual cultural traditions have deeply embedded themselves in the hearts of Chinese women, distorting and alienating their sexuality.
This leads women to feel a dual sexual repression in their personal sex lives.
Before engaging in sexual activity, women often unconsciously perceive sex as a male prerogative, believing that women should not actively seek it.
Even after breaking through this psychological barrier in a relatively fulfilling sexual life, women struggle to learn how to fully enjoy their inherent sexual capabilities.
Unmarried women who dare to express their sexual arousal, sexual dreams, or sexual responses are often seen by other men as easy targets, while other women may label them as "promiscuous." As a result, a woman's wedding night is often treated as a mere "rite of passage," leading to various unnecessary physical and mental distress, even pain.
After marriage, women's sexuality is still viewed as solely for the service of their husbands, as if merely not refusing their husband's sexual demands equates to having good sexual ability.
If a wife dares to express a need for more orgasms, she is likely to be considered "greedy." If she proposes any specific sexual requests, her husband may feel she is "not adhering to wifely duties" and may even interrogate her, asking, "Who taught you that?" International feminism argues that male and female sexuality is homologous and is merely shaped by centuries of male-centered societal norms, resulting in a cultural system that severely represses women's sexual capabilities and expressions.
Women have been gradually conditioned and trained to become "asexual beings," often unconsciously believing that this is their natural state.
Feminism asserts that women's liberation and gender equality must include sexuality, restoring the true nature of women's sexual physiology, allowing women to spontaneously, autonomously, consciously, and self-regulate to fully enjoy their inherent sexual capabilities and pleasures.
If women still do not dare to acknowledge and utilize their limitless sexual abilities, they cannot achieve the equal status and autonomy (not power!) they deserve in their sexual lives, nor can they attain equality in other aspects of social life.
Previously, we have introduced too little about the sexual theories of the international women's movement.
Therefore, for some educated Chinese women, discussing the physiological drives of sex seems lowbrow and vulgar, denying the nobility of love, or even degrading women.
In fact, it is precisely in those cultures that fully respect women's sexual capabilities and rights that the banner of love flies higher than ours.
Now, regarding this article that resonates with my feelings, I would like to ask you, doctor, honestly, do you envy women and think it is better to be a woman?

Tor, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2003/05/01

Dr. Huang Chikai reply Urology

Responded.

Reply Date: 2003/05/01

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Understanding the differences in male and female sexual pleasure is a complex topic that encompasses biological, psychological, and sociocultural dimensions. Your inquiry touches on several important aspects of sexual experience, including physiological responses, societal expectations, and personal feelings of pleasure and discomfort.

From a biological standpoint, men and women experience sexual arousal and pleasure differently due to anatomical and hormonal differences. Men typically have a more straightforward physiological response to sexual stimuli, characterized by erection and ejaculation. However, this can lead to issues such as premature ejaculation, as you've mentioned. The experience of sexual tension can heighten arousal, but once ejaculation occurs, many men report a decrease in sexual sensitivity and pleasure, which can be frustrating.

On the other hand, women often have a more complex sexual response. They do not experience a refractory period like men, which means they can potentially have multiple orgasms in a single sexual encounter. This capacity for multiple orgasms is often attributed to the physiological structure of the female body, which is designed to respond to stimulation in various ways. Women also have a broader range of erogenous zones, which can contribute to a more diverse sexual experience. However, societal norms and cultural expectations often suppress women's sexual expression, leading to feelings of guilt or shame about their desires.

Your reflections on the societal pressures surrounding female sexuality are particularly poignant. Historically, many cultures have imposed strict norms regarding female sexual behavior, often framing it as something that should be passive or solely for the pleasure of men. This has led to a significant disconnect between women's biological capacity for pleasure and the societal narratives that dictate how they should experience and express their sexuality. The article you referenced highlights these cultural dynamics, emphasizing the need for women to reclaim their sexual agency and recognize their inherent capacity for pleasure.

The feelings of envy you express towards women may stem from a recognition of the societal freedoms that women can experience regarding sexual expression, despite the challenges they face. This envy could also reflect a desire for the emotional and physical experiences that women can have, which may seem more fulfilling or less constrained than those typically associated with male sexuality.

It's essential to acknowledge that sexual pleasure is not solely determined by biological factors; psychological and emotional components play a significant role. Individual experiences of pleasure can vary widely based on personal history, emotional connections, and mental health. For instance, feelings of anxiety or performance pressure can diminish sexual pleasure for both men and women.
In your case, it may be beneficial to explore these feelings further, perhaps through discussions with a therapist or a sexologist who can provide insights into how societal norms and personal experiences shape your understanding of sexuality. Understanding your own desires, preferences, and the societal influences at play can help you navigate your feelings about sexual pleasure and identity.

In conclusion, the differences in male and female sexual pleasure are influenced by a myriad of factors, including biology, psychology, and culture. While men may experience a more straightforward sexual response, women often have the potential for a more varied and complex sexual experience. However, societal pressures can significantly impact how both genders perceive and express their sexuality. Embracing open discussions about these topics can lead to a better understanding of one's sexual identity and desires, ultimately fostering a healthier relationship with sexuality.

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