Assessing HIV and STD Risks in Oral Sex with a Steady Partner - Urology

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Hello doctor 👋 I have a regular sexual partner, and during our sexual activities, they only perform oral sex on me without a condom.
For all other sexual intercourse, we always use condoms, and sometimes we even change to a new one during the process.
Recently, I learned through chatting that my partner has had unprotected sex in the past.
Am I at risk of contracting HIV or HPV? I get tested for STIs every three months and have always tested negative.
Should I consider getting tested every month, or is it sufficient to continue with the three-month testing schedule? Thank you 🙏

Xiao Le, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/09/03

Dr. Li Minghui reply Urology


Hello: Any sexual activity that does not involve full protection carries some risk.
Oral sex is considered moderate risk, and screening after three months is advisable.
For reference, sexual behaviors can be categorized by their risk levels:
- No risk activities include masturbation, hugging, and touching areas other than the genitals.
- Low risk activities include mutual masturbation, light kissing, mutual rubbing, and protected sexual intercourse using condoms.
- Moderate risk activities include deep kissing, oral sex, and withdrawal before ejaculation.
- High risk activities include unprotected intercourse and intercourse that causes wounds or bleeding.

Wishing you good health.

Reply Date: 2021/09/03

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When it comes to assessing the risks of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) associated with oral sex, especially with a steady partner, it is essential to consider several factors, including the nature of the sexual activities, the health status of both partners, and the frequency of testing.


Understanding the Risks
1. Oral Sex and HIV Transmission: Oral sex is generally considered to be a lower-risk activity for HIV transmission compared to anal or vaginal intercourse. However, it is not risk-free. The risk can increase if there are cuts, sores, or bleeding gums in the mouth of the person performing oral sex, or if the receiving partner has an STD that could facilitate the transmission of HIV.

2. Other STDs: While the risk of HIV transmission through oral sex is lower, other STDs such as gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, and human papillomavirus (HPV) can still be transmitted. HPV, in particular, can lead to genital warts and is associated with certain cancers.

3. Steady Partner Considerations: If you have a steady partner and both of you are aware of each other's sexual health status, the risk of transmission may be lower, especially if both partners are tested regularly and are free of STDs. However, if your partner has had unprotected sex with others, this could increase the risk of exposure to STDs.


Testing Recommendations
1. Frequency of Testing: Since you mentioned that you undergo anonymous testing every three months, this is generally a good practice. For sexually active individuals, especially those with multiple partners or those engaging in higher-risk activities, more frequent testing (such as every month) may be advisable. However, if you and your partner are both monogamous and regularly tested, continuing with the three-month interval may be sufficient.

2. When to Test: After potential exposure to HIV or STDs, it is recommended to wait at least 2-4 weeks for initial testing, as some infections may not be detectable immediately. For HIV, the window period can vary depending on the type of test used, with some tests able to detect the virus as early as 10 days post-exposure, while others may require up to three months for conclusive results.


Managing Anxiety and Health
1. Mental Health: It is common to feel anxious about potential exposure to STDs, especially if you are unsure about your partner's sexual history. It is important to communicate openly with your partner about sexual health and testing. This can help alleviate some anxiety and foster a sense of trust.

2. Healthy Practices: Continue practicing safe sex by using condoms for vaginal and anal intercourse, and consider using dental dams for oral sex to reduce the risk of STD transmission. Regular communication with your partner about sexual health and any concerns can also help maintain a healthy relationship.

3. Consulting Healthcare Providers: If you have specific concerns or symptoms, it is advisable to consult a healthcare provider. They can provide personalized advice based on your sexual history, health status, and any symptoms you may be experiencing.

In summary, while the risk of HIV transmission through oral sex is lower than through other forms of sexual activity, it is not negligible. Regular testing, open communication with your partner, and practicing safe sex are crucial steps in managing your sexual health. If you have any further questions or concerns, do not hesitate to reach out to a healthcare professional for guidance.

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