Premature ejaculation during sexual intercourse?
Hello doctor, I have had numerous intimate encounters with my partner; the foreplay usually lasts quite a long time, around 10-20 minutes, during which I can engage in intimate activities (including oral sex) without ejaculating, or I can control my ejaculation.
However, once I put on a condom and penetrate my partner, I often struggle to last long.
Almost every time I enter, I quickly feel the urge to ejaculate, and I find it difficult to control ejaculation through mental willpower.
What could be the reason for wanting to ejaculate in less than a minute after penetration, and is there a solution? This issue is very discouraging for me, and I feel quite frustrated.
I do not smoke and rarely drink alcohol, I have a habit of weight training (though I lack some aerobic exercise), and my diet is generally normal, although I sometimes stay up late.
Thank you for taking the time to respond.
L, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/10/17
Dr. Chen Jiansheng reply Urology
Premature ejaculation, please seek medical examination.
Reply Date: 2021/10/17
More Info
Premature ejaculation (PE) is a common sexual dysfunction that affects many men at some point in their lives. It is characterized by the inability to control ejaculation during sexual intercourse, leading to ejaculation occurring sooner than desired, often within a minute of penetration. This condition can cause significant distress and frustration for both partners, impacting sexual satisfaction and intimacy.
Causes of Premature Ejaculation
The causes of premature ejaculation can be multifaceted, involving both psychological and physiological factors. Here are some common contributors:
1. Psychological Factors: Anxiety, stress, and performance pressure can significantly impact sexual performance. If a man is overly concerned about his ability to last longer, this anxiety can lead to a cycle of premature ejaculation.
2. Physiological Factors: Certain medical conditions, such as hormonal imbalances, inflammation of the prostate or urethra, and neurological conditions, can contribute to PE. Additionally, some studies suggest that men with heightened sensitivity in the penis may experience PE more frequently.
3. Relationship Issues: Problems within a relationship, such as lack of communication or unresolved conflicts, can also play a role in sexual dysfunction, including PE.
4. Lifestyle Factors: While you mentioned that you maintain a healthy lifestyle with regular exercise and a balanced diet, factors such as lack of aerobic exercise, poor sleep, and substance use (even if minimal) can influence sexual health.
Solutions and Management Strategies
Addressing premature ejaculation often requires a combination of approaches. Here are some strategies that may help:
1. Behavioral Techniques:
- Start-Stop Technique: This involves stimulating the penis until you feel close to ejaculation, then stopping until the urge decreases. This can help you gain better control over your ejaculation.
- Squeeze Technique: Similar to the start-stop method, this involves squeezing the base of the penis just before ejaculation to reduce the urge.
2. Desensitizing Products: Over-the-counter creams or sprays that contain numbing agents can help reduce sensitivity and prolong the duration of intercourse. However, it's essential to use these products carefully to avoid affecting your partner's sensation.
3. Pelvic Floor Exercises: Strengthening the pelvic floor muscles through exercises (like Kegel exercises) can improve control over ejaculation. These exercises involve repeatedly contracting and relaxing the muscles that control urination.
4. Counseling or Therapy: If psychological factors are contributing to PE, speaking with a therapist or counselor can be beneficial. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can help address anxiety and improve sexual confidence.
5. Medical Treatments: In some cases, medications may be prescribed to help manage premature ejaculation. Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are commonly used off-label for this purpose, as they can delay ejaculation.
6. Communication with Your Partner: Openly discussing your concerns and experiences with your partner can help alleviate anxiety and improve intimacy. This can also lead to exploring alternative sexual activities that may be more satisfying for both partners.
Conclusion
Premature ejaculation is a common issue that can be addressed through various strategies. It’s important to remember that you are not alone in this experience, and many men face similar challenges. If the problem persists or worsens, consider consulting a healthcare professional who specializes in sexual health. They can provide personalized advice and treatment options tailored to your specific situation. Remember, sexual health is an integral part of overall well-being, and seeking help is a positive step toward improvement.
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