Is this considered a fetish?
Hello doctor, I would like to ask about my habit of wanting to masturbate while wearing my school sports uniform and engaging in various sexual fantasies.
I find that only specific colors of the sports uniform trigger my urge to masturbate.
I'm wondering if it's possible to change this habit, as I don't want others to know about this peculiar tendency of mine.
Niming, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/10/26
Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry
Hello, netizen: May I ask if this has caused you significant distress in your daily life? If not, it may not be a condition that requires intervention.
As for whether it is a bad habit, opinions may vary.
As long as it does not affect others, it should be fine and does not necessarily need to be changed.
Dr.
Wu En-Liang
Reply Date: 2021/10/26
More Info
Fetishism, in the context of sexual behavior, refers to a strong sexual attraction to a specific object, body part, or activity that is not typically considered sexual in nature. In your case, the attraction to wearing school sports uniforms and the associated sexual fantasies can indeed be classified as a form of fetishism. This is not uncommon, as many individuals develop specific preferences or associations that enhance their sexual arousal.
It is important to understand that having a fetish is not inherently problematic unless it causes distress or interferes with your daily life, relationships, or responsibilities. Many people have fetishes that they incorporate into their sexual experiences without any negative consequences. However, if you feel that your fetish is becoming a source of anxiety or shame, or if it is affecting your ability to engage in healthy sexual relationships, it may be worth exploring further.
Here are some considerations and suggestions for addressing your concerns:
1. Self-Acceptance: The first step is to accept that having a fetish is a part of human sexuality. Many people have unique preferences, and these do not define your worth or character. Understanding that you are not alone in this can help alleviate feelings of shame.
2. Exploration: If you are comfortable, you might explore your fetish in a safe and consensual manner. This could involve discussing your interests with a partner who is open to exploring fantasies together. Communication is key in any sexual relationship, and sharing your desires can lead to a more fulfilling experience.
3. Gradual Change: If you genuinely want to reduce your reliance on this fetish for sexual arousal, consider gradually introducing new elements into your sexual experiences. This could involve experimenting with different types of clothing or scenarios that do not trigger the same response. Over time, you may find that your arousal can be elicited through a broader range of stimuli.
4. Professional Support: If you find that your fetish is causing significant distress or impacting your life negatively, seeking help from a mental health professional, particularly one specializing in sexual health, can be beneficial. They can provide a safe space to discuss your feelings and help you develop coping strategies.
5. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Sometimes, anxiety about a fetish can exacerbate the feelings associated with it. Practicing mindfulness, meditation, or relaxation techniques can help you manage anxiety and develop a healthier relationship with your sexual desires.
6. Education: Learning more about human sexuality, fetishes, and sexual health can provide you with a broader perspective. Understanding that sexual preferences are diverse and that many people have similar experiences can help normalize your feelings.
In conclusion, while your attraction to wearing school sports uniforms during masturbation may be classified as a fetish, it is essential to approach this aspect of your sexuality with understanding and acceptance. If it is not causing harm or distress, it may not require change. However, if you wish to modify this behavior, consider exploring new avenues for sexual arousal, seeking professional guidance, and practicing self-acceptance. Remember, sexuality is a complex and varied aspect of human experience, and there is no one "normal" way to express it.
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