Emotional Instability: Signs and Solutions for Moms

Emotional instability

Hello Doctor: Seven years ago, after giving birth, I became a full-time mom due to various factors.
Recently, over the past year, I've found it increasingly difficult to control my emotions.
I often get angry over small things and have no patience for anything.
In the past few months, I've been feeling more and more unhappy, frequently wanting to cry, experiencing chest tightness and headaches, and I always feel like I'm not well-rested (even though I sleep for at least about 6 hours).
I often crave food (even when I'm not hungry), feel exhausted all the time, dislike hearing sounds, and prefer not to engage in conversations.
The only time I feel somewhat happy is when I'm playing with my child.
Even when my husband suggests planning a trip, I feel uninterested.
Could this situation mean that I am unwell?

Zhang Xiaojie, 30~39 year old female. Ask Date: 2021/12/12

Dr. Wu Enliang reply Psychiatry

Hello, it does seem like it could be depression.
Depression is treatable, and I recommend visiting a nearby mental health facility for evaluation and care.
Dr.
Wu En-Liang

Reply Date: 2021/12/12

More Info

It sounds like you are experiencing a challenging period in your life, particularly with emotional instability and feelings of sadness. The symptoms you describe—irritability, lack of patience, frequent crying, physical discomfort (like chest tightness and headaches), sleep disturbances, and changes in appetite—are concerning and may indicate a deeper emotional or psychological issue.

Firstly, it is important to recognize that becoming a full-time mom can be a significant life transition that comes with its own set of challenges. Many women experience what is often referred to as "postpartum depression" or "postpartum anxiety," which can occur not only in the immediate months after childbirth but can also manifest years later due to various stressors. Your feelings of being overwhelmed, coupled with the physical symptoms you mentioned, could be indicative of such a condition.

Research shows that emotional instability can stem from various factors, including hormonal changes, stress, lack of support, and feelings of isolation. As a full-time mom, you may find yourself dedicating most of your time and energy to your children, which can lead to neglecting your own emotional and physical needs. This can create a cycle of frustration and sadness, as you may feel trapped in your role without adequate outlets for your feelings or support systems.

Here are some strategies that may help you manage your emotional instability:
1. Seek Professional Help: It’s crucial to talk to a mental health professional who can provide you with a proper diagnosis and treatment plan. Therapy can be incredibly beneficial in helping you process your feelings and develop coping strategies.

2. Connect with Others: Reach out to friends, family, or support groups for mothers. Sharing your experiences with others who understand can alleviate feelings of isolation and provide emotional support.

3. Practice Self-Care: Make time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes a day. Engage in activities that you enjoy or that help you relax, such as reading, taking a bath, or going for a walk. Prioritizing self-care can help recharge your emotional batteries.

4. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Incorporate mindfulness practices, such as meditation or deep breathing exercises, into your daily routine. These techniques can help reduce anxiety and improve your overall mood.

5. Physical Activity: Regular exercise can significantly impact your mood and energy levels. Even a short walk can help release endorphins, which are natural mood lifters.

6. Healthy Eating: Pay attention to your diet. Eating nutritious foods can influence your mood and energy levels. Try to maintain a balanced diet and stay hydrated.

7. Sleep Hygiene: Although you mentioned getting around six hours of sleep, it’s essential to ensure that your sleep is restful. Establish a calming bedtime routine and create a sleep-friendly environment.

8. Limit Overwhelm: If you feel overwhelmed by daily tasks, consider delegating responsibilities or simplifying your routine. It’s okay to ask for help or to say no to additional commitments.

9. Engage in Activities with Your Children: Since you find joy in playing with your kids, try to incorporate more activities that you can enjoy together. This can help improve your mood and strengthen your bond with them.

10. Consider Professional Support for Your Partner: If your partner is supportive and willing, consider discussing your feelings together. This can foster understanding and create a more supportive home environment.

In conclusion, while it’s understandable to feel overwhelmed as a full-time mom, it’s essential to address these feelings proactively. Emotional instability can significantly impact your quality of life and your relationships with your children and partner. Seeking help and implementing self-care strategies can lead to positive changes and a more fulfilling experience as a mother. Remember, you are not alone in this, and there are resources available to support you through this challenging time.

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