Anxiety: Coping with Fear of Being Followed in Daily Life - Psychiatry

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There was a previous concern about being easily startled; this is a supplement?


Not only what was mentioned earlier, but I also feel anxious when walking up stairs, often walking faster.
When I return home and go up the stairs, I always prefer my family to walk in front of me rather than behind me.
If a family member walks behind me, I tend to quicken my pace to create distance.
If they walk in front of me and are too slow, I also feel uneasy.
The same applies at school; I prefer not to have anyone walking behind me, especially when going up the stairs.
Going down the stairs feels somewhat better, but this is limited to school.
Additionally, I am afraid to go out at night and do not dare to turn off the lights when sleeping.
If I go out with my family at night, I tend to walk faster, wanting to quickly get home and close the door.
Sometimes, when I have bad dreams while sleeping, I realize that I seem to be engaging in avoidance behaviors.
I wonder if this is related to my daily life.
I haven't experienced any trauma; I simply feel a sense of unease.

Xiao Ya, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/01/29

Dr. Lin Mianzhang reply Psychiatry


Hello, Xiaoya: It seems that you have a more sensitive constitution, which makes you prone to reactions of fright and fear.
Generally speaking, if the symptoms are mild, you can improve your autonomic nervous system sensitivity through exercise (especially aerobic activities such as jogging, yoga, swimming, and tai chi), diaphragmatic breathing, or mindfulness practices.
However, if the symptoms are more severe, medication or psychological therapy may be necessary for more significant improvement.
I suggest you try the methods mentioned above first, and if there is no noticeable improvement, then seek professional help.
Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Reply Date: 2022/01/29

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Understanding anxiety, especially when it manifests as a fear of being followed or a general sense of unease in daily life, can be quite challenging. Your experiences of feeling anxious when walking up stairs, needing family members to be in front of you, and feeling uncomfortable when others are behind you are indicative of a heightened state of alertness and a desire for safety. This is not uncommon, especially in individuals who may have a predisposition to anxiety or who have experienced stressors that heighten their sense of vulnerability.

Anxiety often stems from a combination of genetic, environmental, and psychological factors. Even if you haven't experienced a specific traumatic event, the brain can still develop patterns of fear and anxiety based on perceived threats in the environment. The feelings you describe—such as the need to walk quickly up stairs, the discomfort of others being behind you, and the fear of the dark—can be linked to a natural instinct to protect oneself from potential danger. This instinct, while beneficial in genuinely threatening situations, can become maladaptive when it leads to excessive worry and avoidance behaviors.

Coping with these feelings involves several strategies:
1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This is a highly effective treatment for anxiety disorders. CBT helps individuals identify and challenge negative thought patterns and beliefs that contribute to anxiety. For example, you might work on reframing thoughts about being followed or the dangers of walking alone at night.

2. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing mindfulness can help ground you in the present moment and reduce feelings of anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and meditation can be beneficial. These practices can help you manage your physiological responses to anxiety and create a sense of calm.

3. Gradual Exposure: This involves slowly and systematically exposing yourself to the situations that trigger your anxiety in a controlled manner. For instance, you might start by walking up stairs in a safe environment where you feel comfortable, gradually increasing the challenge as you become more accustomed to the feelings of anxiety.

4. Building a Support System: Sharing your feelings with trusted friends or family members can provide emotional support. They can help you feel safer and more secure, especially in situations that trigger your anxiety.

5. Professional Help: If your anxiety significantly impacts your daily life, seeking help from a mental health professional is crucial. They can provide tailored strategies and, if necessary, medication to help manage your symptoms.

6. Lifestyle Changes: Regular physical activity, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep can significantly impact your overall mental health. Engaging in activities that you enjoy and that promote relaxation can also help reduce anxiety levels.

7. Journaling: Writing about your fears and anxieties can help you process your feelings and identify triggers. It can also serve as a tool for reflection and growth.

8. Education: Understanding anxiety and its mechanisms can empower you. Learning about how anxiety works can help demystify your experiences and reduce feelings of helplessness.

It's important to remember that anxiety is a common experience, and you are not alone in feeling this way. Many people struggle with similar fears and concerns. By taking proactive steps and seeking support, you can learn to manage your anxiety more effectively and improve your quality of life. If you find that your anxiety persists or worsens, please consider reaching out to a mental health professional who can provide you with the support and guidance you need.

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