Struggling with Chronic Tardiness: A Mental Health Perspective

Q: Struggling with Chronic Tardiness: A Mental Health Perspective

Hello Jason： You mentioned that you have a history of mental illness for over 20 years. <br>Have you discussed this issue with your physician? Sleeping excessively to the point of being unable to get up can be related not only to the illness itself but also to medication. <br>I r

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Hello, doctor.
I'm not trying to be difficult; rather, I have a longstanding issue that has persisted over the years.
I have finally transitioned from a job scavenging for meals to being employed by a company, and I have been working there for 2 to 3 years now.
However, I continue to face a significant problem: I often arrive late.
Sometimes I oversleep and can't get up, leading to tardiness and absenteeism.
I can't just stop sleeping! Once I fall asleep, I find it hard to get out of bed the next day when it's almost time to work.
Although I have a history of mental illness that has lasted over 20 years, I still want to change.
I have been spared from being fired several times due to my boss's leniency! Today, my supervisor asked me to prepare my resignation letter for tomorrow! Looking back, I was never the type of person to be late or absent from work; it seems that this habit developed gradually after attending university, or rather, a vocational school! My mother passed away over a decade ago, and no one has ever talked to me about certain things or engaged me in meaningful conversations.
My father is indifferent to my situation, and my brother once asked me to reflect on my behavior! Yet, the situation remains unchanged.
I have to rely entirely on self-reflection to assess myself.
If I don't think about it or fail to grasp the situation, things could get worse! I feel so pitiful; my family has given up on me.
After all, I am 42 years old, not young anymore, and I should at least know better, but I have a mental illness, and I truly find it difficult to cope! I once consulted Dr.
Ding Shuo-Yan at e-Hospital in Taiwan, who earnestly advised me, but my problems persist! I am on the verge of being let go, and this issue has recurred throughout my working life!

Jason, 40~49 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/03/07

Dr. Lin Mianzhang reply Psychiatry

Hello Jason: You mentioned that you have a history of mental illness for over 20 years.
Have you discussed this issue with your physician? Sleeping excessively to the point of being unable to get up can be related not only to the illness itself but also to medication.
I recommend that you talk to your doctor about ways to improve this situation.
Wishing you peace and well-being.

Reply Date: 2022/03/07

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Chronic tardiness can be a complex issue that intertwines with various aspects of mental health, particularly for individuals with a history of mental illness. Your situation reflects a struggle that many face, and it’s important to approach it with compassion and understanding.

From a mental health perspective, chronic tardiness can often be linked to several underlying factors, including anxiety, depression, or even conditions like ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). These conditions can affect one’s ability to manage time effectively, maintain motivation, and adhere to schedules. For instance, individuals with anxiety may experience overwhelming feelings that can lead to procrastination or avoidance behaviors, making it difficult to get out of bed or prepare for the day ahead. Similarly, depression can sap energy and motivation, leading to difficulties in waking up or getting ready for work.

Your mention of a long-standing mental health history suggests that these patterns may be deeply ingrained. The transition from a challenging work environment to a more stable job is commendable, but it can also bring about new pressures and expectations that may exacerbate existing issues. The fear of losing your job due to tardiness can create a cycle of anxiety that further complicates your ability to arrive on time.

It’s also worth considering the impact of your family dynamics on your current situation. The loss of your mother and the lack of support from your father and brother can contribute to feelings of isolation and helplessness. When individuals do not have a support system to rely on, it can be challenging to implement changes in behavior or seek help. This lack of connection can lead to a sense of despair, making it even harder to take the necessary steps to improve your situation.

Here are some strategies that may help you address chronic tardiness:
1. Establish a Routine: Creating a structured daily routine can help you manage your time better. Set a consistent bedtime and wake-up time, and try to stick to it, even on weekends. This can help regulate your sleep patterns and make it easier to get up in the morning.

2. Use Reminders: Utilize alarms, reminders, or apps on your phone to help you stay on track. Set multiple alarms to ensure you wake up on time and give yourself enough time to prepare for work.

3. Break Tasks into Smaller Steps: If getting ready in the morning feels overwhelming, break it down into smaller, manageable tasks. For example, lay out your clothes the night before, prepare your lunch, and set your bag by the door. This can reduce the cognitive load in the morning.

4. Seek Professional Help: Since you have a history of mental illness, it may be beneficial to consult with a mental health professional. They can help you explore the underlying causes of your tardiness and develop coping strategies tailored to your needs. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) can be particularly effective in addressing anxiety and behavioral issues.

5. Communicate with Your Employer: If you feel comfortable, consider discussing your challenges with your supervisor or HR department. They may be able to offer accommodations or support that can help you manage your time better.

6. Build a Support Network: Reach out to friends, support groups, or mental health organizations. Connecting with others who understand your struggles can provide encouragement and accountability.

7. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself as you navigate these challenges. Recognize that change takes time, and setbacks are a normal part of the process. Celebrate small victories along the way.

In conclusion, chronic tardiness can be a multifaceted issue influenced by mental health, personal history, and environmental factors. By implementing structured routines, seeking professional guidance, and fostering supportive relationships, you can work towards overcoming this challenge. Remember, it’s never too late to seek help and make positive changes in your life.

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