Finding Purpose: Overcoming Anxiety and Fear of Failure - Psychiatry

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What is the purpose of living?


Hello, doctor.
I often find myself thinking about failure whenever I start something new.
I try hard to remember things, but I always struggle with it, leading to feelings of insecurity and frustration.
I frequently experience fear about the future, and when I'm alone, I question why I should keep living.
I don't dare to share this with my family, fearing that it might escalate or worsen the situation.
My mind is filled with images of failure and severe consequences, which keeps me awake at night.
I often feel low emotionally and cry occasionally.
I can only fall asleep when I am extremely exhausted to the point of being mentally blank.
Recently, I started a new job that requires memory and social skills, both of which I find daunting and concerning.
I can feel my heart racing, and my limbs become stiff and uncontrollably tremble.
If possible, could you please reply via email?

Lurén, 20~29 year old female. Ask Date: 2022/10/11

Dr. Qiu Junda reply Psychiatry


Hello.
The text indicates negative emotional responses that are affecting both mental and physical health.
Please seek treatment at a mental health clinic as soon as possible to facilitate improvement (including issues related to memory and social skills).
In the meantime, you can also call the 1925 mental health hotline.
They can provide counseling and referral services.

Reply Date: 2022/10/11

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It sounds like you are experiencing a significant amount of anxiety and fear of failure, which is impacting your daily life and mental well-being. This is a common struggle for many individuals, especially when faced with new challenges or responsibilities, such as starting a new job that requires strong memory and social skills. The feelings of self-doubt, fear of failure, and overwhelming anxiety can create a vicious cycle that makes it difficult to move forward.

First, it’s important to acknowledge that what you are feeling is valid. Anxiety and fear of failure can manifest in various ways, including physical symptoms like a racing heart, trembling, and difficulty sleeping. These symptoms can be exacerbated by negative thoughts and a focus on past failures, leading to a sense of hopelessness. It’s crucial to understand that you are not alone in this experience, and many people face similar challenges.

To begin overcoming these feelings, consider the following strategies:
1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This therapeutic approach can help you identify and challenge negative thought patterns that contribute to your anxiety. A therapist can work with you to reframe your thoughts about failure and help you develop a more balanced perspective. CBT has been shown to be effective for anxiety and can provide you with tools to manage your fears.

2. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing mindfulness can help you stay present and reduce anxiety about the future. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation can help calm your mind and body. These practices can also improve your ability to focus and retain information, which may alleviate some of your concerns about memory.

3. Gradual Exposure: If social situations are a source of anxiety, consider gradually exposing yourself to these situations in a controlled manner. Start with smaller, less intimidating interactions and gradually work your way up to more challenging social settings. This can help desensitize you to the fear and build your confidence over time.

4. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your tasks into smaller, manageable goals. Instead of focusing on the overall outcome, concentrate on the steps you can take to achieve your objectives. Celebrate small victories along the way, which can help build your confidence and reduce feelings of inadequacy.

5. Seek Support: It’s important to talk about your feelings with someone you trust. This could be a friend, family member, or mental health professional. Sharing your experiences can provide relief and help you feel less isolated. If you’re hesitant to discuss your feelings with family due to fear of burdening them, consider seeking support from a therapist who can provide a safe space for you to express yourself.

6. Consider Professional Help: If your anxiety and fear of failure are significantly impacting your daily life, it may be beneficial to seek help from a mental health professional. They can provide a proper assessment and recommend treatment options, which may include therapy or medication if necessary.

7. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Understand that everyone experiences setbacks and failures, and they do not define your worth or potential. Practicing self-compassion can help you develop a healthier relationship with yourself and reduce the pressure you place on yourself to succeed.

In conclusion, overcoming anxiety and fear of failure is a process that takes time and effort. By implementing these strategies and seeking support, you can begin to shift your mindset and approach challenges with greater confidence. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help, and taking the first step towards addressing your feelings is a sign of strength. You deserve to find peace and purpose in your life.

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