Ejaculation control
I came across a report online stating that masturbation can help train oneself to control and prolong ejaculation.
The content suggested stopping just before ejaculation, waiting for 30 seconds, and then continuing, repeating this several times.
My questions are: during self-training, is it necessary to ejaculate during the last attempt? If I don't, could it be harmful in the long run? Is daily training harmful to my body? Additionally, I take 1 to 2 minutes to urinate, and sometimes it takes even longer when someone is next to me.
I don't feel anxious about being watched; it just seems like I feel pressure.
Please provide me with some methods to overcome this.
Thank you!
William, 10~19 year old female. Ask Date: 2003/11/16
Dr. Lai Ronghao reply Urology
1.
Not ejaculating is not harmful to the body.
2.
It may take 1 to 2 minutes to urinate.
This is commonly seen in middle-aged and older men with benign prostatic hyperplasia.
Your issue may be due to poor bladder function, long-standing habits, or even emotional factors.
It is advisable to seek help at a clinic.
Reply Date: 2003/11/16
More Info
Mastering ejaculation control is a topic that many individuals are interested in, particularly for those who wish to enhance their sexual performance or manage premature ejaculation. The technique you mentioned, often referred to as the "stop-start" method, is indeed a common practice in sexual health education. It involves stimulating oneself to the point of near ejaculation, then stopping to allow the urge to subside before continuing. This method can help individuals gain better control over their ejaculation timing.
To address your specific questions:
1. Do you have to ejaculate during training?
It is not necessary to ejaculate every time you practice this technique. The goal of the stop-start method is to increase your awareness of your body's responses and to build control over your ejaculation. If you choose not to ejaculate during your training sessions, that is perfectly fine. In fact, some individuals may find that they can practice the technique more effectively without the pressure to reach climax every time.
2. Is it harmful to practice this technique regularly?
Practicing ejaculation control techniques like the stop-start method is generally considered safe and can be beneficial for sexual health. However, moderation is key. Engaging in this practice every day is not inherently harmful, but it is important to listen to your body. If you experience discomfort, pain, or psychological stress, it may be wise to reduce the frequency or consult a healthcare professional. Overtraining in any form can lead to physical or mental fatigue, so balance is essential.
3. Regarding your urinary concerns:
The issue of taking 1-2 minutes to urinate, especially under pressure, can be linked to a condition known as "paruresis" or shy bladder syndrome. This is a common anxiety-related condition where individuals feel unable to urinate in the presence of others. Here are a few strategies to help you overcome this:
- Practice Relaxation Techniques: Before you go to the restroom, take a few deep breaths to calm your nerves. Visualization techniques, where you imagine yourself in a comfortable and private setting, can also help ease anxiety.
- Desensitization: Gradually expose yourself to urinating in public restrooms. Start by using a stall when it’s less crowded and gradually work your way up to busier times. This can help reduce the anxiety associated with urinating in public.
- Focus on the Task: Instead of worrying about how long it takes or who is around you, try to focus on the act of urination itself. This can help divert your mind from the anxiety of being observed.
- Use Sound: Some individuals find that the sound of running water can help trigger the urge to urinate. If possible, try turning on a faucet or using a restroom with a urinal that has a water feature.
In conclusion, mastering ejaculation control through techniques like the stop-start method can be a useful practice for many individuals. It is important to approach this training with a mindset of self-exploration rather than pressure. Additionally, addressing urinary concerns with relaxation techniques and gradual exposure can significantly improve your comfort in public restrooms. If you find that these issues persist or worsen, it may be beneficial to consult with a healthcare professional who specializes in sexual health or urology for personalized advice and support.
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